A disappointment is an emotion inherent in a person and related to a negative spectrum of emotional experiences. The word annoyance is often used synonymously with such concepts as irritation or disappointment, displeasure resulting from failure or trouble, as well as resentment. It should be borne in mind that such use of this term is not completely correct, since all of the above feelings have a bright affective color and are always directed to an external source of irritation.
An annoyance can manifest itself at a conscious level, and then it is usually transformed into aggressive reactions towards the surrounding space in order to change the conditions that led to the annoying experiences. Also, the feeling of annoyance can be completely unconscious or barely conscious and manifest itself as acts of auto-aggression and other destructive and self-deprecating activities.
What it is
The meaning of the word annoyance is given in linguistic and psychological dictionaries. Regarding the interpretation of the first annoyance is a feeling of grief or irritability, it can accumulate under the influence of many factors or occur abruptly after a single episode that does not satisfy the desired picture of the universe.
In psychology, annoyance is considered not as a separate feeling, synonymous and suitable for replacing others, but as a complex emotional formation arising from the confusion of feelings of resentment and irritation. The disappointment is quiet in its manifestation and bitter in terms of living - this is taken from resentment, while it is a feeling of poorly tolerated extreme discontent - this part comes from irritability. An interesting point is that the insult is often chronic, i.e. It does not refer to a specific incident, but rather describes a person’s general attitude towards life or his emotional background. Irritability with a chronic background of resentment appears already situationally, has facts that contribute to the appearance and always explain the reasons.
This feeling does not refer to affective ones and never covers the mind of a person, so most often the one who is annoyed realizes that there are no guilty ones, and what happened is an unpleasant set of circumstances, however, due to a combination of the previous factors, it cannot abstract from negative experiences. Living annoyance associated with situations of the past or present, ie it can not capture the future, such as anxiety, when a person is concerned about the possible outcome of the case. The future is involved in this phenomenon solely as desires and assumptions, i.e. those plans that a person makes regarding even the most simple situations. Those. By and large, a feeling of annoyance can arise even in a normal set of circumstances, but at the same time not corresponding to the situation presented by a person in advance.
The causes of this feeling
Based on the knowledge of the manifestations of the feeling of annoyance, we can conclude about the probable causes provoking its appearance. The initial impetus is the lack of real opportunities for the implementation of important internal needs of the individual. The scale of these desires, just like the objectivity of the impossibility of their realization, may be different, but the inner picture for a person remains the same - he does not get what he expected, demanded or wanted.
In addition to blocking the possibility of achieving the desired, annoyance may occur when a person finds himself in a situation that restricts the manifestation of his freedom in achieving important internal or life goals. In the light version, these limitations come from the outside world - obstacles on the way. In this case, annoyance is quickly transformed into open anger, and aggression, discontent and irritability are transformed into energy, directed at overcoming the situations that have arisen. If there is any additional framework limiting a person (temporary or material factors that are not possible to influence), annoyance can occur with any little thing that appears on the way. This is due to the high level of internal stress.
But in addition to the active and real events occurring directly in a person’s life, annoyance can occur in the passive process of perceiving the world. So, when a person observes, reads or listens to information coming in about the world or occurring facts (for example, news or a story from acquaintances) that does not correspond to his understanding of moral values or the concept of proper world order, the gamma of feelings that arises as a response results in disappointment .
With a high voltage of the nervous system, fatigue, pre-irritability, a feeling of annoyance can be caused even by the ambient temperature, smells, own fatigue, discomfort at any level (from sound, light, surface, requirements of others).
How to deal with annoyance
The experience of annoying emotions is not something that can please a person or bring any benefit, therefore, beginning to experience this feeling, many immediately begin to look for a way out of the current state. Despite the fact that this is a violation of the emotional and mental sphere, it helps to get out of the residence of annoyance quite simple techniques available to everyone.
The most affordable and simple option is physical activity. Everyone can individually choose what will help him cope with annoyance. If the feeling of irritability prevails, then you need to remove the aggression - martial arts, boxing, pounding, playing simulators in entertainment centers, where you need to hit moving targets. Those who are more immersed in the offense, recommended load, uncorrected for stress relief. It is good to run (in situations of a sense of stalemate and hopelessness), swimming (when annoyance arises against the background of prolonged stress), push-ups and abdominal exercises with muscle tension (occurs when emotions are held back for a long time) or jumping in place (this helps myself alive).
The mechanism of physical activity operates according to the principle of relieving physical tension, after which emotional tension decreases. In addition, hormonal balance is regulated, endorphins begin to be produced, making you feel a surge of strength, vitality and happiness, which is incompatible with the experience of annoyance.
It helps to stabilize emotions consuming sugary foods rich in glucose. Often the state of annoyance may occur due to the banal lack of energy in specific brain areas, so when you receive quickly digestible substances mood stabilizes. In addition to glucose, mood can be changed by eating chocolate and bananas, which contribute to the production of happiness hormones.
In addition to physical methods, there are a number of psychological techniques that help to cope with annoyance. Here the moment of switching the usual response algorithm to a positive mood is important. So if you replace self-digging and compassion, as well as thoughts of negative things on nice things (kiss your loved one, play with your pet, get creative), the brain will automatically adjust the emotional sphere to positive.
We are accustomed to react so that our actions coincide with the emotional background, respectively, if you change at least one component, the second will also change. The second option may be to appeal to others, in order to know their view of the situation, which will help to find out whether you are winding yourself up or everything is really bad. Usually, the situation from the inside is perceived less realistically than it can be objectively, so listening to someone else's opinion can help in changing one’s state.
And of course you should not forget about the prevention of any negative emotions, including annoyance. To do this, it is important to try as much as possible not to invent options for the development of events and adjust reality to your own beliefs and plans. Readiness for change, flexibility in interaction, tolerance with respect to someone else's point of view - all this is not only a guarantee of inner peace, lack of annoyance at the failure to achieve the desired, but also ensuring your own freedom in the manifestation of individuality.