Gas jetting - this is a psychological manipulation whose task is to make a person doubt the objectivity of what is happening. A gaslighting person wants to make another individual "abnormal," "insane," wants him to lose touch with the outside world. The person who uses gaslighting is called a gaslighter.
The term gaslighting began to be used after the release of the film "Gaslight" ("Gaslight"). In the story, the protagonist steals the jewelry from his wife and hides them in the attic, while he lights up the light, so the tension in the other lamps in the house decreases. This can not fail to notice his wife. But her husband assures her that the lighting is all right, and indicates that she has mental problems, because she sees something. Thus, the woman believed that she did have mental disorders, since she truly trusted the beliefs of her husband in this.
Gazlighting, what is it? This is the real manipulation.
Gazliding - inaction on the part of the victim, who does not even resist his manipulator.
Psychology causes different psychology, but most often they are related to the fact that a person is not able to change. For example, a person is annoyed by the fact that he is not at that age, not of the gender, that his social status or position in the family is inappropriate. So, you can often hear: "You still haven't dried milk over your lips," "You're a woman, shame on you," "You are not my boss," "You are not the head of the family to point out," and you can give similar examples lots of.
Gazlating and abyus in relations arise between people who spend a lot of time together: in the family, at work, between friends.
Often couples in gaslighting consist of a parent and child, a husband and wife, a boss and a subordinate. Coming out of the fact that relations in these couples are more long-lasting, it can be said that gaslighting is a long-term strategy of behavior, and not a one-time precedent. A gaslighting manipulator will not be able to achieve something at once, because it is impossible, from the first, to devalue a person so much that she herself feels that she is unsure of herself, incapable and pitiful.
Also, gaslighting is a rather long-term phenomenon, because the aggressor, who is in essence an "emotional vampire," takes great pleasure in constantly observing the humiliation of the victim. It is much more difficult for a child in such a situation, because he does not understand that he is being gasled. He also does not know how to deal with this, and believes everything that his relatives say. He begins to doubt his own inferiority, becomes closed and depressive. He cannot just pack up and leave the house, as an adult can do to resist gas-lacing in his family, even if he begins to realize that his parents’s attitude towards him is not normal.
In order to understand whether a person has fallen under the influence of gaslighting, he needs to watch the aggressor and see if certain signs are characteristic of the initiator of gaslighting.
Gazleiter manipulates the victim so that she doubts her memory; it makes you think about your own adequacy and emotional stability; special attention betrays the age, gender and physiological characteristics of a person, emphasizing his incompetence; speaks of the sacrifice as an empty-headed and feeble person; ignores feelings. If gaslighting is detected in time, it can be overcome without significant damage to the victim’s mental health. For a person who has experienced a long gaslining, rehabilitation is simply necessary, you can get it in special institutions or try ways of self-improvement.