The process of the formation of volitional actions occurs at an early age, when the baby acquires voluntary movements, which he does in manipulating all the available objects with which he wishes to get acquainted, more often with toys.
Is it possible to develop the will power of the child? A similar question is asked by many parents who want to make their child disciplined. Волевое поведение начинает формироваться тогда, когда ребенок становится способным выполнять самые элементарные действия, необходимые для преодоления им трудностей, а также действия, связанные с необходимостью, когда ребенку нужно сделать дело, которое было предложено сделать, но не то, которое ему самому хочется.
Здесь имеют значение систематические требования и установки взрослых. These adults can skillfully put the child before an urgent need to cope with various, but feasible obstacles, while showing strength of will along with endurance.
The will power of a preschooler can be developed by performing simple, but work tasks that encourage a child to do something, not only for himself, but also for others, while overcoming certain obstacles.
The will power of a preschooler can be developed using collective games, in which one must necessarily reckon with the considerations of the whole team, with the game rules, and suppress their natural motives. The process of subordination of one’s own behavior to a common external discipline is an important lesson in teaching the development of a child’s willful behavior.
Immediately upon entering school, the next stage begins in the process of developing willpower. The student's willful abilities can be developed by influencing him through training activities that place new and varied serious requirements and responsibilities. Learning activity from a child expects a developed ability to manage one’s own mental activity, for example, to make the mental effort necessary to master the necessary knowledge, to memorize uninteresting and difficult material, to finish the whole robot on time and bring it to completion. Learning activity stimulates the student to consciously manage behavior. He must all understand what is required and do it, even if it does not coincide with his personal desires. This will be able to develop the will power of the child and then he will be able, for example, to abandon the game, TV or walk to perform his educational duties.
The main aspect of developing the will of a child is the guidance of adults over it. The closest are the parents, teachers, surrounding adult friends. They use certain means and methods to cultivate the discipline of the student and the development of willpower.
Willpower can be developed only by overcoming difficulties, so those parents who are trying in every possible way to eliminate any problems that appear in the way of their child, do great folly, as they prevent the manifestation of their volitional qualities and ability to overcome obstacles. Forming a sense of duty and an understanding of responsibility is a very important condition in order to develop willpower.
How to develop will power in a child? The basic condition is to do nothing to break it. It is not necessary to destroy that which has not even been completely formed. Children need to be raised and raised in natural conditions, live in reality, taught to experience happiness and pain, losses and victories, to meet with betrayal and loyalty.
To keep a child from all sorts of misfortunes and difficulties that can happen to him means to weaken his will, to prevent it from showing up. This does not mean that a child from childhood will make his own life an adult, full of difficulties and tipping points. He will simply be able to experience the personal experience of mistakes. But also this child, when he stumbles on another stone, will wait for a close person to support him. He needs to know that he will rely on someone in case he has to face obstacles that will require a lot of his strength.
To develop willpower in a child, parents should be consistent in their own actions. If the parents cannot make a single decision, if one allows something, then the other should not forbid it, otherwise the child will not understand how to act. It also makes the child very insecure, inconsistent and indecisive. Such a relationship is very negative for him. The child will be very lazy, rebel, take one side of his parents, often stronger. The requirements put forward by parents should be fair conditions that would help develop a child's willpower.
When tough conditions are established over the child, he will be able to develop and temper a strong character, which will become very noticeable externally, although all feelings will be trapped inside him. This child in the future can be a toy for manipulators. Some of the prohibitions that parents set are bound to be perfectly accurate. Many people use such wordings of prohibitions as "it is possible only if ...", "it is impossible, not yet ...".
Many parents make a mistake when they treat a child too gently and allow a lot. Children who grew up in conditions of permissiveness, shift their own responsibility to their parents. This can create interpersonal conflicts, accusations, and mutual resentment. If the parent says yes, then it must be so, not otherwise, have no other meaning.
Thanks to the daily routine, the child can allocate resources, set, develop and achieve their goals. It is necessary to begin with the elementary everyday rules, gradually increasing them, striving for a meaningful and more important result. So, it is necessary to immediately teach the child to brush their teeth, then to teach them to do morning exercises and develop self-discipline with these habits.
Volitional qualities can be perfectly formed thanks to the sport. Any physical effort is a step towards overcoming oneself. A child who learns to challenge himself, his body, will bring up a strong spirit in himself, will be able to develop willpower and ability. Each achievement testifies to the abilities of the human body and spirit. This can be credited not only a great sport, but also other various physical activities, systematic exercises that can discipline a child. It will also bring him pleasure, positive and confidence. The child must feel support, he should not be present fear of failure to perform planned activities or achievements. It is important to remember that from the beginning of the path, in order for the child to develop willpower and discipline, it is not necessary to perform great feats, it is better to start with small victories.
If the child violated the regime, discipline, did not make the promise, he was guilty, he must understand, he just will not pass it. Following the completion of a case that goes beyond the boundaries of what is allowed, a punishment should follow that would not humiliate the child himself and allow him to remember that it is impossible to do so.
Willpower needs to be developed from a small childhood, this will help facilitate the child and also parents their lives in the future. The process of developing the willpower of a child is quite energy-intensive, it requires the patience of the parents and their time. But for the sake of raising a child you can sacrifice a lot. Willpower will help the child to make his dreams come true.