Communicability is an acquired quality of a person, manifested in the ability of a person to use his ability to build productive interaction in the most qualitative and adequate way. In the scientific paradigm, sociability is quality, showing not only the ability of the individual to communicate, but also to search for compatibility, to build connections with other people. It manifests itself in a high ability to work together, and not only as a participant, but also as a leader and organizer of this type of activity. This is a key point in some specific client-oriented or communication-oriented activities, but apart from this, communicability often becomes an added bonus in any other direction of the main work.
In the field of intimate communication or friendship, sociability implies the ability to establish productive contact. With examples of life, this can be expressed as the ability of a person to maintain an interesting dialogue for a long time, the ability to interest the interlocutor, to support, as well as some elements of empathic understanding of those around him. From a negative point of view, the word sociability precisely in interpersonal interaction can be equated to talkativeness or intrusiveness, but these concepts do not reflect the whole true meaning of the term.
What does it mean
High communication skills of a person, as well as a decrease in the level of sociability are not innate qualities of a person. These parameters are formed individually due to the impact of many factors, including the type of nervous system, the peculiarities of building interaction in the parental family, the type of upbringing, individual preferences of a person internalized from books and the surrounding society. The peer group and the place of the individual in it, the resulting psychotrauma, or vice versa success stories, the complex, and high self-esteem also make a mark on the level of sociability. As far as one can see from the factors contributing to interpersonal skills, this quality cannot be finally formed by a certain age, but also in principle does not imply a final version of development.
In some conditions, a person may exhibit high communication skills, while, changing the social environment, or self-perception, this level may drop to critically low levels. Awareness of their social role (whether it is assigned independently or imposed by the reference group) largely dictates the characteristics of human behavior, including communication. So in the environment where you are presented as a daughter, brother, son, wife, the level of communication skills can increase if there are no family problems. Those who consider themselves to be leaders can notice for themselves inspiration and the ability to negotiate with anyone exclusively within the office, while losing these skills in commonplace situations.
It is believed that the basis of communication skills is the lack of prejudice against other people, their ways to organize their own lives, as well as attitudes, values and a common worldview. Roughly speaking, the less preliminary assessment is available at the beginning of a dialogue, the more sincere interest, real and natural questions, and openness to the perception of another's opinion. The opposite of this quality is adherence to labels and concepts, as well as immersion into an absurd illusion that if you and a person have lived together for a long time, then you know ahead of their reaction. Such preconceived opinions limit communication not only in terms of the number of phrases spoken to each other, but also impoverish him internally, depriving one of fullness of meaning and the possibility of development.
Sociability always manifests itself in a company, such a person is different in that it is interesting for the majority to interact, his gestures and facial expressions, as well as the manner of presenting information, are unique and interesting. It can be said that the quality of a good storyteller is necessarily present, when any story is retold vividly, and even boring information is skillfully presented in an interesting interpretation. It is important not to confuse sociability and such manifestations as talkativeness or sociability. In other cases, a person may produce many words per unit of time, but the story will be boring, or the person may be an amazing storyteller, but all narratives do not have an ultimate goal.
Sociability always has a specific goal - negotiations with a disgruntled customer, the need to convince your opponent, make a good impression, resolve a conflict, persuade people to make the necessary decision and much more.
He who has a highly developed communicability will not chatter as he understands the true influence and meaning of a correctly spoken word. Usually these people have well-established speech and diction, a high level of general erudition, as well as inner tact and culture of communication. The main feature is that the interlocutor enjoys, benefits, and at least his own minimum development or opens up new ways for the realization of actions or new reflections.
Pros and cons of this quality
When extroverts rule the world, sociability is recognized as one of the most desirable qualities. In many vacancies, this feature fits into the range of mandatory, during the interview and just writing your own portrait, the mention of the developed communication capabilities always gives a person advantages, and in everyday life they prefer to be friends with such people.
The popularity of sociability due to the fact that it carries a lot of positive things, not only in itself, but also gives support to other related and useful features. Such a person is always more successful, because he can negotiate with other people, promote his own interests or competently get out of the conflict. There is a skill of understanding the opponent, so even friends are often friends with such a team, not to mention informal communication - everyone feels understood, unique, interesting, and does not think that this merit largely does not belong to them.
This trait has a positive effect not only on building relationships, but also on the well-being of the person himself, giving confidence and calm. This is an opportunity for the first to respond to changing circumstances, settle a conflict, or turn things around in a favorable direction. Respect among others is also a bonus - they can come for advice or with requests to talk to someone, to influence someone's decision. Usually, assistance in such matters is remembered for a long time, which means that a person not only can easily find help himself using his skills, but other people will provide it themselves, remembering how they helped them.
Sociability gives more confidence and activity in life, helps to be realized, and therefore increases the level of ambition. Not everyone wants to have a subordinate who does more and manifests himself with a qualitative side. Fear of competition, a sense of inferiority next to such a person can provoke unmotivated dismissal or obstruction of normal activities. It is the same in relationships, when at first this trait attracted, because it was aimed at communicating with one, but then it turns out that a person interacts with everyone in this way. At best, jealousy and constant clarification of relations on the topic of who is more expensive will follow, in the very worst case, the person who communicates with the outgoing person begins to develop heavy complexes, permanent traumatization occurs and the person’s condition worsens. The one who has a high level of communication skills may not understand what is happening with the previously good interaction, try to save the relationship, and as a result develops his own complexes with respect to the previously useful and pleasant self-manifestation.
Regarding the person himself, there are also negative consequences of heightened sociability, which comes down to the need to choose carefully the place of work and position held. If this is an activity associated with numbers and technology, then soon either emotional burnout will occur, or nature will take over and the personality will begin to exceed its authority and instructions. Another accompanying point is the increased artistry, which is so appealing when a person says something, but it may look overly figurative, which in the end, with subtle and intimate moments, may be misinterpreted.
How to develop interpersonal skills
The development of communication skills is a popular topic among psychologists, coaches and coaches of various business areas, as well as its elements can be present in any personal growth program, because the ability to communicate is an integral part of any development in the social world. There are also a number of recommendations, using which a person can independently improve his rhetorical, charismatic and communicative abilities, at the same time increasing the level of self-confidence.
The first priority is to stop avoiding all communication opportunities. If earlier you tried to slip away from a party where not everyone is familiar or order goods on the Internet, in order not to interact with consultants, now you need to try, at least not specifically to exclude interaction possibilities. In the first stages, you should not strain yourself and become the initiator of communication yourself, it is enough to wait for activity, and as you overcome the awkwardness, it will manifest itself more and more.
Before the planned communication, it is better to plan your pleasure from this time than the escape options. Even if you understand that nothing pleasant will happen, and you will not hear anything new, it is recommended to think about how you can expand the conversation. If this is a showdown at work, then you can begin to propose solutions yourself and ask the boss about cooperation, then the options for threats and humiliation are reduced. If a friend comes to you, constantly telling the same experiences, then immediately take the initiative in your own hands, starting your own narration or taking him to a session in the cinema or in the park.
The basics of communication are reduced to the constant manifestation of activity. Hello first, show the person that you noticed him. This is especially true in large cities and corporations, when people are just looking at trying to find out whether they want to interact with them. Smiles and greetings will be enough to start a dialogue, and if he is not ready for interaction, then you just leave a pleasant impression.
When the dialogue has already begun, try to avoid formalities that spoil any interaction. The standard polite interest must be answered a little more than the statement that everything is normal. So the interlocutor appears, for which to cling in the continuation of the conversation. Besides the fact that you yourself are telling about yourself, be sure to remember that from personal moments you were told and at the next meeting take an interest. The main thing that naturally increases communication skills - sincere interest in the interlocutor. Stop perceiving even old acquaintances from the usual perspective, ask them unexpected questions, ask for advice, share your opinion.