First love is one of the strong experiences that a person experiences, it affects the events of the future life and leaves its imprint on everyone's soul. That is why it is impossible to forget the first lover, whether this love is happy and mutual or not. The memory of this can live, even when a happy life has already been built with someone else, and to bring a pleasant romanticism, tell about their grandchildren about this. Although it happens that these memories can bring unpleasant emotions, and there is a desire to delete them. First, honestly, you should answer yourself if you really want to forget your first love, because dramatic experiences can serve as makeup for creativity or motivation for achievements, perhaps this is how you defend yourself from other relationships by giving all the reserve forces to experience negative emotions. What happens if this memory disappears? Where does creativity come from, why achieve success and how to communicate in a new format? Many new and complex questions arise after this, and perhaps even unnecessary changes.
Forgetting the following relationships is usually easier, wounds after them are delayed more quickly, but with the first love everything is more complicated. It is unlikely to be forgotten, but you can stop reacting so painfully and bring back the colors of a full life. You should not isolate yourself from friends and hobbies, try to continue to live as before, following the same schedule as before. Faster is the fact that did not entail a significant change in life, and by maintaining social contacts, you can get support. Staying with the same activities - does not mean staying in the same emotional state and pulling a smile, crying, when sad memories roll in, let your feelings out.
How to forget the first love? Usually, when parting, there is a lot of free energy that was previously spent in relationships, and then begins to be sent to memories and suffering, to bear plans for return and depressive thoughts. Let this energy on your dreams, for which there was not enough time or energy (study, travel, new projects, creativity).
The first time you have to watch out for your thoughts, so that they do not constantly turn around the object of your affection, and also do not acquire an unreal catastrophic character ("I will no longer be happy", "I will never love", etc.). Try to take care of yourself and provide basic needs (maintain a sleep mode, provide good nutrition, take care of your appearance), since such ordinary and automatic things often become less important against the background of strong feelings, but their violation can only aggravate the situation.
How to forget and experience parting with first love? To reduce the painfulness of memories it is worth analyzing these relationships, to understand what good they brought, what they taught. Analyzing the past, you care about your own future, and do not allow the same mistakes or you will not get involved with the wrong person.
Asking how to forget the first love after many years, many people forget about the good moments and concentrate on the bad ones, as usually happens if you try to completely remove the memories. If you give them some time to flow freely, then you can see a lot of bright memories, encouraging words, practical advice that may be useful in the present moment, cause a smile and gratitude to the person.
Over time, there comes an understanding that there was nothing special and unique in the first love, just the brightness of perception against the background of the absence of such experience. If you compare your new relationships with first love, they always lose in terms of richness, but not in depth. Like all the first, the first love will be brighter, as the first day at a new place is always brighter than the next. Compare the quality of relationships, if you have already made comparisons, instead of enjoying the uniqueness of what is happening.
So, how to forget the first love after many years? Set new life goals or return to the realization of old ones that were forgotten because of the love itself or the experience of parting. Such activities will help you to distract and fill in the empty spheres of life, to tighten gaps or to reach new heights. An unacceptable option to escape is to enter into a new relationship, without awareness of the previous situation. This is an unconditionally powerful method, and you, of course, will distract from the experiences, thanks to a new partner, but you risk being again with a ruined personal life, repeating the same mistakes.
Get rid of things that are reminiscent of first love, and fill the places with new emotions (arrange a picnic with friends in the clearing where you sat or ride with your girlfriend on the rollers along the streets where you loved to walk). Be busy, and your life, and not a permanent profile view of the former in social networks.