Charity is a personality trait, manifested in the internal willingness to help, forgive, sympathize, not pursuing their own interests, but being guided solely by disinterested motives. The manifestation of mercy is present both in material charity and in spiritual gifts, such as supporting or understanding the man’s prior censured acts.
This feature is not available to everyone in its effective manifestations, especially with the development of the technological part of the world, when all the time in the virtual space and it is impossible to experience the misfortune of another from your own experience. She always needs to push aside not only her own problems and experiences, but also take time to give it to another. The concept of charity includes necessarily an effective manifestation of the expressed feelings, can also be expressed only in deeds, but rarely expressed only in verbal form.
What it is
Understanding what charity is and how to distinguish it from other spiritually approved qualities, it is important to note not only the person’s desire to help or empathize with sympathy, but also the lack of inner criticism to the one who is being helped. Those. he who acts out of these motives will not simultaneously lecture or criticize another, point out his mistakes or show the right path. It seems that the feeling that the needy person is innocent, repentant or has done something not on malicious intent, rather works in advance, but in general there is no assessment as such.
In charity there is always a sacrifice, i.e. when a person gives some money to a beggar, while having millions, it is not mercy, but the same act from someone who counts pennies to survive can be attributed to the merciful. Where there is a lot of free time and there is no place to spend it, and this person chooses to participate in charity events, there is only a desire to entertain himself, unconditionally aimed at a good cause. The situation is completely different where a person goes to help the shelter after twelve hours of his own work, sacrificing normal sleep, lunch and rest. The desire to help, surpassing your own needs, strength of spirit to understand that although you yourself need it, you can help others from this state as well - this is a true manifestation of charity.
But never mercy is a neighborhood of stupidity, when such a person will be pushed around - this is the ability to provide an opportunity and to stand next to those who have difficulties in solving them, it is an attempt to show other ways and teach if they ask. When the other only uses help, and everyone continues to provide it, it is more likely that we can talk about co-dependent relationships, where one serves as a moral or material “donor”, but in reality there is no help, because no one needs it, but only constant infusion of energy.
When there is no mercy, there is not only material benefit, but above all moral, manifested in the desire to receive gratitude or praise from others. There is no egoism in it, which can manifest itself in doing good deeds for the sake of one’s own reputation, feeding the ego or inflating personal importance. But it always brings peace and goodness to the soul of the one who acts mercifully, because he simply has no moral opportunity to do otherwise. Also, the one who is merciful gets a unique opportunity to be less angry, because there is no condemnation of another and no idea how he should behave. This is the acceptance of the world as it is, with negative moments and a personal opportunity to correct them. The more such manifestations, the easier it becomes to communicate at any level, the easier the relationship, and as a result a person gets help without waiting for it. This is a very important point that it will still receive precisely because it helps others not for their own benefit. And the one who does good, hoping that in any situation everything will rush to the rescue most often remains alone, because at the very beginning of the impulse there was greed.
Charity is not an innate trait and is acquired only in society, with a certain direction, where from an early age, goodwill, condescension, selflessness and the desire to help your neighbor are imparted to the person. In any group there is a desire for mutual aid, even in animals, but there it is dictated by the biological need to stick together, which helps the pack to survive. In such cases, if an individual commits an offense, it can be punished or expelled, mercy can act to the detriment of others, against the instinct of self-preservation, but for the sake of another.
In general, this trait is considered to be positive and spiritual, but may be denounced by other members of society in situations where, in their opinion, the stumbler does not deserve help or support. It can be explained by stupidity or naivety, undeserved respect or short-sightedness, but in any of these options there is no humane attitude to others, and there is only fear and the pursuit of their own safety or gain.
In religious denominations of various levels, manifestation of mercy is considered one of the spiritual practices, showing not only love for a particular person, but for a deity through caring for his creation. That is why in the believing environment such acts of self-denial are always perceived favorably, and in the brightest variants are even canonized.
Mercy causes more and more disputes when it comes to its impact on the global development of society. Those who adhere to the spiritual orientation, regardless of faith or lack of it, say that it is these traits that retain something human and give all people a chance. This is a kind of marker of what we are all different from animals, and the more mercy in man, the more he is close to the spiritual world, where consciousness transformations are possible.
But there are a number of features, such as the problem of mercy towards criminals, when the human soul forks in its gusts. Punishing is unmercifully, such a prerogative is given only to the highest reason and man’s own conscience, but, unfortunately, any system (and society is just a system) requires strict adherence to the rules for its common existence. One of the ways to enforce compliance with such rules is precisely the punishment that is most pronounced in the system of court legislation.
This and other issues can be solved not only by clear rules and their blind observance, but guided by the principle of attitude to others from the position, as we would like them to act with the person himself. This applies in the real world, when observing repentance or that a person is corrected, he is given an amnesty. The same is present when parents punish a child, but not for the manifestation of cruelty, but with care for him and feel in time when it is necessary to stop, until such care has become the cause of a serious traumatization of the mental sphere of the person.
It is not possible to exclude charity for the sake of justice, since it is this that makes it possible to build a humane world and harmonious relations at the individual level. This is a trait that will help the person himself in a difficult moment, because everyone stumbles or performs impartial acts out of ignorance or deliberately, then repenting.
Exceptional justice without the participation of the heart, love, condescension is always equated with cruelty, since that which is explicable by logic is not always so from the standpoint of feeling. Besides the fact that the needy receives the help and the opportunity for development, he is also given the opportunity to treat others mercifully, feeling from his own experience how important this is. Thus, a humane strategy of behavior can spread among people, minimizing the amount of use of force, anger, war, and other negative and exhausting manifestations for the psyche. The principle of personal gain turns out to be working only for the first time, until long-term consequences occur, when people drift away, trust disappears and justice deprived of sympathy returns.
Understanding the need for such actions, many try to express false mercy by helping more like something. When is it easier to send money than to come to a person who needs not so much treatment, how much to communicate or when hungry animals are fed with surplus of their own products, and not in a situation of their own shortage. Mercy should not manifest itself through its own sufferings, but the problem of modernity in the pursuit of spirituality and its alleged existence - everyone wants to show it for the sake of encouragement or acceptance in circles, it flatters someone, and someone makes a sense of duty. It is also not a problem of mercy, not as a category, but as a way of its manifestation, the possibility of sincerity and genuine participation of the soul.
Examples of mercy
An abstract description of the quality of the human person is not always accessible to understanding without the above examples of life. Examples from the side of faith can be instances of instruction on the right path, not only in the context of observing the precepts or honoring the gods, but eliminating ignorance and delusions. Sometimes a simple conversation explaining what is happening in this world helped people much more than punishment and standard calls to believe in higher powers. Priests who indulged themselves in anger, but for good intentions and communicated with sinners out of sympathy and mercy, as with unreasonable children, while continuing to help and instruct them, despite the mistakes, are an example of disinterested care.
Similar things happen outside of confessions, when any human misunderstanding was eliminated by a kind lesson, by example or enlightenment. So parents teach children, ordinary pedestrians, doing a service, show that there is kindness, and teachers, presenting new knowledge, eliminate the possibility of making mistakes out of ignorance. Much of the mercy of teaching and teaching is not aimed at helping, when the situation already requires salvation, but when it is still possible to prevent difficult times.
Mercy is manifested in the words of consolation for those who are in despair or who are hurt by the events - this is an opportunity to find the right words to help a person find the strength to restore faith. This is a belief in one's own strength of the fallen, in his ability to get up from his knees and continue on his way without much help and crutches. So they do not invalidate the injured, and they begin to fight for the development of their capabilities, so they give hope to those who have lost loved ones and they begin to act for the sake of the main ideas.
Inner work is compassion. When someone is forgiven for insults sincerely, sometimes silently, without even saying it in person, or when they are praying for a person who has committed evil or is in a difficult situation. These are the moments when in general no one except the most merciful knows what is happening inside him, but this changes the further interaction. But mercy is not only the right words or inner work, it is also deeds or not doing some. To non-actions is the ability not to respond to evil with evil, but rather to see the cause of such behavior (often people are aggressive because of their own pain, they are offended because they themselves are offended). The smaller the rude response to rudeness, the less this becomes on the ground.
To merciful action is practical help where it is needed. You can feed the hungry instead of donating money (perhaps they are asked for alcohol) or give water to the thirsty. Simple things that support vital functions are fundamental. When a person remembers the homeless and gives them his clothes, but does not throw them away or when he gives what he would wear himself, but an understanding that he has two pairs of shirts makes him give one to the needy.
To give a shelter to a traveler, or to give a ride to the poller on the highway, to visit a patient, a prisoner, limited in movement - this is more and more important than many thousands of donations to charitable foundations, as they relate to the immediate situation and specific people