Self-irony is a kind of ironic spectrum of discussion, when a person himself becomes the center of discussion and comments. Self-irony and irony are built on the concealment or opposition of an explicitly presented meaning to a true meaning, in order to create the feeling that a person or subject is not the same as they appear at first glance. The feeling of self-irony allows a person to laugh at himself, joke, while not degrading his own dignity, makes it easy and healthy to evaluate his own abilities and achievements, without going into self-admiration or self-flagellation.
Depending on the context and the ability to apply, self-irony is a sign of both internal strength (when a person can be the first to laugh at their own incidents) and internal weakness (when self-irony turns into a protective mechanism aimed at anticipating others' ridicule and caused by a decrease in self-esteem). In both cases, the ironic perception of oneself reduces the risk of attack by others, since there is no motivation to point out the wrongdoing person who notices them or even tease whoever does it more successfully in the past.
Self-irony and irony go hand in hand, therefore, having made a remark to an ironic person, you need to be prepared that now you will get the attention of his discussions, but whether you can also parry ironic attacks, not having so much developed skills of self-ironic statements, remains an open question. In addition to defensive functions and a common sense of life, self-irony helps to show oneself in a favorable light, without resorting to direct praise, they often use it, flirting, and use the same combination - emphasizing a slight drawback so that all advantages can be seen more brightly and and asking for a compliment in this way.
Self-irony is a sign of high intelligence, grace in the presentation of information, a fine sense of humor and a realistic, holistic view of yourself. In addition, this quality indicates a high-quality and deep knowledge of oneself, in order to be able to isolate a disadvantage, criticize it in its original form, without causing damage or trauma to its own psyche, not to indulge in humiliation and apology. This attitude implies a large amount of self-love and acceptance entirely with positive and negative appearances. Perhaps it is these internal features that make ironic so attractive, make you learn from them and strive to develop irony in your own perception.
How to learn self-irony?
Optimism and laughter, when looking at problem points, help make life more pleasant, and cope with all sorts of things faster and easier, also a sense of self-irony makes life easier, and helps to establish excellent relationships, instead of looking like a closed and unsociable genius.
The development of self-irony is a useful thing to avoid toxic feelings of guilt, to get rid of increased sensitivity and vulnerability, to prevent evil and traumatic jokes of others in his address, while maintaining self-esteem.
Self-irony begins to emerge in the process of personal growth, and allows you to draw conclusions about the maturity of the individual. A person who feels humiliation of humor in his own way is dependent on the opinions of others, has problems with self-esteem and some complexes. The complete surrender of laughter at oneself is evidence of internal problems that do not allow one to relax. Conversely, the one who accepts himself and does not wait for evidence of his value and significance from the side, who is internally free, is able to find the funny in the environment and in himself. The ability to laugh, humor, ability to look at the situation from different angles are signs of mental health and balance of personality. So training self-irony should start with working with your own self-esteem and experience of interaction and presentation of yourself to society.
There are options that can move the situation without resorting to a psychotherapist for a serious study of internal problems. When assessing the situation, look at it from the point of view of a neutral observer, if this technique succeeds in full, then you will notice how the level of tragedy of what is happening decreases significantly, which means that everything becomes easier. Expect that you immediately begin to laugh at yourself, you should not. You need to get used to such an image, starting with thoughts (first force yourself to look funny in every situation, then when it becomes automatic, you can start to beat the funny image in your imagination, bringing it to the limit when you yourself will have fun, and then you can and with others to share). Work on the development of the imagination - it is the main engine of the emergence of new storylines (fantasize about people in the transport, invent a story passing by the autumn leaf).
Learn self-irony from others, being close to such people. Those we surround ourselves with influence our personality, and self-ironic people will help you to see in person that laughing at yourself is not reprehensible and not scary, moreover, such people are valued and respected more than serious and meticulous people. Watch the children, they may look ridiculous, they are beautiful in their foolishness and frivolity, and it is possible that you will get into the habit of making faces at the mirror, which will definitely help a serious and heavy mask of snobism to get off your face.
And it is worth looking at its shortcomings, it is not biased, and without the desire to eradicate them immediately. Many of these qualities can turn out to be quite useful, and even kindergarten teachers could have recorded them as bad ones, laying down in you a perception of yourself based on their value system. Review your traits and think about whether they are really so bad, or someone who was uncomfortable (the obstinacy may be reproached, but it contributes to the achievement of goals, and the lack of integrity can be one of the manifestations of creative nature).
Allow yourself the risk of being any one day, not adjusting to your interests, and fully following your own desires, in the worst case, you will restore your reputation in the next couple of days, and at best make sure that most of your sincere manifestations, even negative ones, are perceived with pleasure and participation. If you can still say a couple of ironic comments about your ability to sing, going to karaoke, then you will get a chance to fulfill your desire, instead of restraining due to lack of skills, support from others, probably assurances that you sing pretty well, or be, inspire someone to follow your path and do something, to make fun of yourself, but continue to move towards your happiness with the help of laughter, not prohibitions and blame.
Examples of self-irony
Self-irony is fascinating and does not leave indifferent, it is a mixture of sensible assessment of the situation, self-esteem and humor, past which it is impossible to pass. There are many examples of such filing, and they have adopted not only individuals, but also entire companies, representatives of brands. This can be attributed to the smart car roller, revealing the inconvenience of a small car, where it slips, blown away by the wind and goes into a ditch from a small pebble, but when transferred to the condition of the city, it already shows itself from the other, maneuverable side, needed in the city, but so useless on the roads without cover.
Aliexpress, analyzing numerous complaints about the translation in the description of the goods, arranged an advertising campaign, using exactly the corrupted translations, and placed the scan code next to it to go to the order page, which attracted the attention of customers, and became mentally dearer to consumers, which would be impossible with a serious program apologies and promises to fix everything. Such humorous and original approaches help to establish really friendly relations with users, but it is necessary to take into account the scope of the company’s activities, since for producers of goods and the entertainment industry this is an excellent opportunity, for law firms and those whose work is connected with health and finance is humor, even in its highest form is misplaced.
The inability to laugh at oneself often complicates interpersonal relations, but also its excess does not contribute to positive things, but makes one think about the number of problems a person has and looks like a defensive reaction.
Examples of adequate self-irony can be comments of a stuttering student at the time of protection "all the information on the slides, otherwise, if I start to tell, we won't leave here until morning" or overweight girls ordering a cake "a good person should be many." But to abandon the party under the pretext of "terribly dancing" is not self-irony, but perhaps manipulation, to endure the event, to gossip, to praise, or the victory of the complexes over desire.
Self-irony does not imply a complete refusal or desire to get rid of shortcomings right now, it is imbued with acceptance and in the case of dancing, an ironic person would say something like, “I’ll give you all the legs, do you want it?”. Often, self-irony slips during flirting, with the words “I don’t know what to say,” as if transferring the initiative to another person, or “forgive my tactlessness”, which demonstrates the ambiguity of the message, where the truth is the person’s extreme tact, once again underlined by this formulation.
It is impossible to issue a collection of ironic phrases for each situation, but they can be collected as aphorisms of the same very self-ironic Ranevskaya, developing your imagination and ability to treat everything with humor.