Psychology and Psychiatry

How to like a classmate

During school years for the first time there is a strong interest in the opposite sex, and adolescents choose their classmates as the object of sigh. Often, matured children do not understand how to properly express their interest in each other, so that warm friendships can be established, for example, between a boy and a girl. Therefore, many boys in school years are faced with the problem of how to like a classmate. In psychology, sympathy refers to the emotional predisposition of one person to another. And the most acute problem of gender relations is precisely in adolescence.

Regardless of the age of the boy, to please a classmate at 12 or 14 years old, the guy should realize that, first of all, you need to like yourself. After all, everyone knows, if you don’t like yourself, you don’t like your closest environment. First of all, girls like simple guys, they slightly dislike those who build themselves "cool guys." It is important to be a respected person in the classroom, not a "showcase". It should be remembered that a classmate may like any guy, the main thing is to choose the "key" to her heart!

Secrets how to like a classmate

Guys need to consider that each classmate is unique and with their own preferences. Therefore, not every classmate can be "to taste" and like, both according to external data, and in their inner world.

If the girl refused and does not want, for example, to communicate or make friends, then you do not need to get upset because of this, it will also be superfluous for the guy to take it as a personal defeat. For myself, the boy should realize that this girl has no common points of contact and that’s all.

To please a classmate at school, you should become an interesting person, have a hobby, be sociable, well-read, erudite, advocate for the weak.

It is important to remember your promises and if you promised to bring a book or help in any decision of the issue, you should do it on time, otherwise the girl will be offended and will not take the guy seriously as a person. Women's interest in the guy will gradually begin to fade, so responsibility and punctuality for the boy should become the most important qualities.

To please a classmate of 14-16 years old, it is necessary for her to smile, openly express her sympathy, not hesitating to that. Girls of this age love self-confident boys.

The ability to connect at the right time a sense of humor will allow to discharge an awkward silence between the girl and the boy. An interesting case told from the life of a guy or his friends, a successful nice joke will allow you to form a positive picture of the narrator in the eyes of the little girl. But about the tediousness, boredom, lack of interests should be forgotten, if there is a strong desire to like a classmate.

It is important to learn how to express your thoughts correctly and not make speech mistakes. Speech should be confident, clear, without the words of parasites. Psychologists recommend the guys in the "conquest of women's hearts" to get acquainted with the literature on the topic of communication with the opposite sex, as well as read more to enrich the vocabulary.

Girls like when they say nice words, but not banal and typical. For example, the girl will be glad to hear: “You are especially beautiful today” instead of the simple phrase “You are beautiful”. You can openly say to the girl that it is pleasant to talk with her and she is an interesting interlocutor.

When communicating with a classmate, it is important to control words spoken to other girls. You can’t speak badly about someone, it can characterize a guy from the negative side.

If the girl started a friendly conversation, then on the occasion of the holidays you can make small surprises, for example, give chocolate, books, flowers.

If the relationship moved to a new level, and a classmate agreed to a date, then in this case it is important not to be late for the meeting, but to come in advance. It should first consider what places you can visit, it is appropriate to ask the opinion of the girl where she would like to go. The girl will appreciate such an act, she will like the attention shown by her classmate.

Walking through beautiful places, it is important not to be silent, but try to be romantic or at least joke. Taking care of the girl will also be appropriate: give a hand, open the door in front of her, lead her into the heat, if the wind has risen sharply. The qualities of a gentleman increase the chances of being liked by a classmate at any age, regardless of how old a girl is 13 or 16.

Bringing your friends to a meeting with a classmate will be superfluous, the girl may feel embarrassed in the general company, so such moments should be agreed in advance.

After each meeting, a classmate should be held right up to the entrance and thank for the walk, noting that they had a good time.

Thus, adhering to the described secrets, it will be easy enough for a classmate to be pleasant, and the girl will be fascinated by the boy. But it should be borne in mind that the relationship is a dynamic process, and the manifestation of sympathy at the moment can change to antipathy later, if the response signal becomes unpleasant. For example, a boy should not violate personal boundaries, both physical and individual, as this can quickly and dramatically erase positive impressions, causing antipathy. Obsessive, incorrect, aggressive or rude behavior can instantly provoke a change from a positive sign to a negative one. And the more attentive and careful attitude of the boy to the girl, the more chances to strengthen the feeling of sympathy and increase the chance of a transition to a close level of communication.

What to do if you don't like you

Much more difficult to like a classmate who does not like you. Maybe it makes sense to leave this venture and consider as objects of sympathy for other girls. As they say: you will not be forcefully forced, but by your obsession to strengthen the antipathy of this little girl is quite real. But if the desire to get the attention of a girl is so great that the guy is ready for a lot, then in this case you will have to make a lot of effort.

It is necessary to take care of your appearance, to bring the body into a good physical shape. Follow the purity and new fashion clothes.

It is important to preserve the naturalness and not try hard to please specifically one classmate, and continue to communicate calmly with other girls, set a goal for yourself to become the "soul of the company" and then the girl who causes sympathy will definitely pay attention. The main thing is not to hurry. Any guy can master the skills of a modern pickup truck, by which they understand the ability to go towards their goals. If at this stage there is no desired result, it does not mean that the guy does not know how to like it, this indicates that the wrong model of behavior has been chosen.

But to please all the girls will help, as already described above, the ability to communicate, inner self-confidence, independence, faith in oneself, purposefulness, presence of vital interests, love of adventure.

Given that the girl is always there and the guy in front of her, you need to deal with their development and try to lead in the classroom. If a classmate notices this, then the boy will not be left without her attention. It is important to respect the point of view of the girl and not allow others to "press" her. The girl will like it if she sees her soul mate. It is important to find common ground that will further support communication. It is necessary to discern the personality in the girl, and only then try to please her.