Arrogance is a quality of personality that can form a false sense of its significance in a person due to detachment from any attachment, inaccessibility or coldness in relationships with the environment. In other words, a person, like a “blown soap bubble,” wishing to appear as an important person, withdraws himself from probable, both tactile and emotional collisions, and invites everyone to touch him, both literally and figuratively, his coldness and inaccessibility.
What it is
The Bible notes that haughtiness is inherent in individuals who are detached and neglected by God. The word arrogance has Old Slavic roots of origin, and the exact meaning of this concept is “to blow” or “to inflate”, a synonym is arrogance, arrogance or arrogance.
Antonym arrogance stands humility or modesty.
The arrogance of a person with his “icy coldness” pushes away other personalities from himself who wish to go on emotional rapprochement with her earlier. Arrogance does not allow you to share your emotions and feelings, cry, repent. The present quality of a person discourages any desire to communicate with it.
Feelings, affection, love - these are unlawful words in the vocabulary of an arrogant person. He hides them deep in the soul. It is no secret that it is precisely in the manifestation of emotions and feelings that a person’s originality and individuality is revealed, and then sympathy arises, turning into affection. Fearing disappointment, the haughty person moves away from any attachment, does not let anyone into his inner world, so he ceases to behave himself, favorably, naturally and affably.
Arrogance is the “therapy” of shyness, awkwardness and constraint. A person wearing a mask of arrogance, and this means consuming the awkwardness and stiffness, is easier to solve important issues for him.
A haughty person does not teach anyone, does not force and does not strain. Imposing something on another person is not part of his intentions. His rule is to go "their way." He is suspended from another individual not because of neglect, but often because of the "cold inaccessibility", behind which the insecure individual is concealed. Intimacy can "melt" inaccessibility, rejection, and behind this will appear its own imperfection and weakness. The arrogance is very close in its qualities to the pretentiousness, mannerism, stiffness.
A haughty person is not eager to humiliate another person. His coldness and detachment cause harm to everyone, thus provoking people to emotional outrage and indignation. However, a person who possesses this quality does not have targeted humiliation.
The origin of arrogant behavior occurs in childhood.
The development of arrogance is influenced by two reasons:
- a defensive reaction of the human psyche, acting as overcompensation of personal defects;
- the emergence of arrogance as a result of obvious success.
This led psychologists to the fact that the factors contributing to the emergence of arrogance are: a sense of inferiority, selfishness, lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem, when the baby is a pet in the family, egocentrism. Growing up, the child gets used to this role, even if he has real achievements.
If a child grows up in a family of high social status, getting used to the fact that he occupies a predominantly better position in society than other individuals, then this individual will certainly become arrogant, provided that the environment flatter, trying to please him.
Signs of arrogance
For this quality is characterized by straightness, lack of sycophony, adulation, obsequiousness. These are strengths that are able to outweigh indiscretion, bombast, bragging, swaggering. The haughty person laughs little because of the fear of "dropping his dignity."
A haughty man does not demean anyone, but shows his appearance to other personalities that they are not his equal. This is noted in external behavior and suggests that the haughty person does not intend to go for rapprochement, especially to adapt to someone.
When a haughty person has a desire to communicate, he “scans” another person to identify social status before starting communication. If an individual does not arouse interest, then the haughty person “throws” a squeamish glance at him or simply sets in motion non-verbal signals of contempt: he doesn’t look, he lifts his eyebrows, he leaves without hearing.
Arrogant man tries to do without words. For him inherent complacency, self-confidence, arrogance, arrogance, disparagingly derogatory attitude towards other personalities. Often this behavior is noted in contacts with persons of equal, and most pronounced in communication with people of low social status.
Communicating with people who occupy a high social position, for example, if it is a boss, conformism is often inherent in a haughty personality.
Arrogance is also noted in persons prone to psychopathology.
So, if the personality has the following qualities, then it can be argued about its arrogance:
- frequent raising of eyebrows;
- communication without looking at the interlocutor;
- contempt in combination with stubbornness, self-confidence, disgust.
The haughty individual needs to dominate, he has an excessive conviction in his abilities and in the merit of success. But by and large, arrogance of behavior acts as a compensatory mechanism of uncertainty. Such a person craves admiration, respect for the presence of certain qualities or actions done.
Arrogant behavior in some measure and under certain circumstances is inherent in all people. But as for individuals who are characterized by constant arrogance, this is their strong model of behavior.
Man’s arrogance of behavior breeds aggression, discrimination, and enmity. On a personal level, arrogance can lead to extreme forms, causing harm to human health, because, proving to society its superiority, the individual works at the limit of his body.
How to get rid of arrogance
If there is a need to get rid of arrogant behavior, it is necessary from time to time to put yourself in the place of those people who have to experience the arrogance of a person. It is important to learn to accept people as they are, not considering that they are something worse. Nothing should give one person the right of superiority over another. If a haughty person realized that he had offended the interlocutor, then in this case one should not excuse himself, but simply apologize from a pure heart. In a situation where others consider the arrogant person to be guilty, and she does not recognize the guilt behind herself, she should intelligibly defend her point of view.
When talking, it is impermissible to point out personal superiority, to express a scornful attitude towards the communicator. You can ask friends, relatives, co-workers, point out mistakes, shortcomings and virtues in behavior. After analyzing what was heard, it is important to accept the fact that all people have their weaknesses and shortcomings.
Arrogance, as the quality of the person will disappear, if a person begins to be interested in others, asking various questions to them, paying attention, ceasing to evaluate and criticize.
Arrogance is often inherent in the immature personality. A mature person realizes that there is no limit in development, in any business there will be the most successful people. It is important to understand that society exists due to the fact that some individuals complement others, and those who have achieved significant success in life, teach less successful people and do not make fun of them for it.