Despondency is a state of mind and physical parameters relating to the asthenic pole of human self-perception, which is characterized by the presence of an apathetic mood, depression. The utter despondency is characterized by the unwillingness to do anything and the lack of any interest in one’s own position and life, accompanied by a strong loss of strength, and is an attendant moment of the depressive disorder of the affective sphere.
Being close in its meaning and feeling of grief, longing, melancholy, despondency is not their synonym and reflects a greater indifference to what is happening. When grieving, a person feels pain and loss, the importance of someone (or about) grieving, with melancholia, the emotional sphere captures sadness, whereas with gloom, almost nothing touches the human soul. Such an apathetic and insensible condition can lead to the development of diseases of the psycho-neurological spectrum, cause suicidal thoughts and attempts, in the hope of ending a meaningless existence or in the hope of feeling something. The despondency is experienced even more because a person does not forget how he used to perceive the world, i.e. he remembers his joy and delight, pain and sadness, how his eyes were burning and how the world played with colors, and now he sees only dullness, and feels only emptiness.
What is disheartening
The loss of the feeling of time is characteristic of this state, when the future prospects are absent and the emotional moments of the past are gradually overwritten, each becomes incredibly similar to the previous one - among such monotony not only all hope or passion is lost, but also the person’s ideas about himself.
A special place of the state of despondency stands out in religion, where it even counts among the deadly sins. It should be noted separately that the state of despondency is characterized not only by an individual person, but can be used in relation to a certain social group or an entire state (such a situation is caused by the absence of competent leadership, distant and ambitious goals in the future, as well as the presence of leaders who do not have bright charisma and intrapersonal strength).
Getting discouraged, the person chooses how to deal with him on his own - someone turns to faith, someone goes to psychologists, and someone pulls himself out of the destructive swamp of indifference, literally by the hair. But the way out of this state is not always provided, some are in it for years or so and end their life course, being in despondency.
The utter despondency comes, if you ignore the causes of occurrence and leave attempts to scramble out of dullness, but how to begin to scramble out depends on what causes the condition.
Despondency is a rather dangerous state of decline, in which not only the psychic sphere suffers, but painful sensations can manifest themselves on the somatic level. Self-esteem falls, the importance of the surrounding world, relationships and processes tends to zero, sleep disturbances are observed, passivity increases, the desire for loneliness, suicide becomes theoretically acceptable, and sometimes practically desirable, as a way to stop the gray swamp, just like psychostimulants and hallucinogens designed to somehow diversify life and swing the sensual sphere. Such symptoms manifest in people in a state of sadness, acute grief and sadness, but if its duration goes beyond the weekly limits, and the degree of manifestation of these aspects increases, then you need to go to friends or a specialist.
If you see a similar condition with your loved ones, and they refuse to acknowledge the existence of problems, refuse to change anything, then you can talk about the need for therapeutic intervention - go for a consultation with a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist who has a medical license to suggest how to prevent the progression of depression. may need hospitalization. As with any emotional state, the various degrees of their severity have discouragement; how to deal with them depends on the duration and reasons conducive to the development of an apathetic state.
The most serious are the insurmountable circumstances of limiting power that are not under human control (wars, catastrophes, natural disasters, illness and death of groups of people and individual members). Such circumstances greatly undermine the usual support of a person, knock him out of the rut and serve as a development for many negative emotional experiences, but it is worth noting that, being the most destructive for the human psyche, they are the least encountered as the trigger mechanisms of despondency.
Much more often the cause of such a state is significant relationships and negative moments occurring in them - divorces and insults, resentment, envy, inattention and other destructive aspects of human relationships. They, being a part of significant relations, are most often shown, unlike fires and wars. Waiting for caring and grateful attitude from close people constantly confronts a person with a discrepancy of reality (this is normal, since we all show both strengths and weaknesses), the question remains in how a person copes with such incidents, how much he accepts the weaknesses of others and allows life to flow in their turn.
And if in some cases the influence of surrounding people really objectively influences a person, then a change in relationships or a social circle can adjust the emotional background, the situation is much more complicated if people have nothing to do with and are only objects of the inner projections of the suffering. It is possible to drive oneself despondent with one's own hands under physiological prerequisites (illness, physical exhaustion, prolonged sleep deprivation), as well as with a certain psychological stock, based on inadequate perception of the external world. The perception of the world shifts when passing the age lines and crises, when changing the former life and social roles (marriage, relocation, new position) and the inability of a person to quickly adapt to the changed conditions.
With increased demands and expectations from others, he himself ultimately suffers, noticing the uselessness and hopelessness of getting what he wants from the outside world, instead of reorienting to achieve it on his own. In principle, the frustration of any significant needs leads either to a jump in achievement motivation, or to hurt, inward closeness and despair in order to experience frustration. This is the mechanism that protects the psyche from a collision with the experience that currently exceeds its resources, but being in constant despondency can become more dangerous and lead to a chronic state of desensitization.
How to get rid of gloom
Despondency can be compared to the extinguished inner fire, when a person not only does not see where to move, but does not understand why to look for this path. To get out of this state will help enthusiasm for any idea or activity, but do not require a keen interest in everything that is happening - it is unlikely to be able to jump out instantly. You should give time, during which just look closely at different directions and genres, you can come to the section and be a real dumb spectator, you can walk the streets, looking for something that can emotionally hook on. The presence of people full of excitement and hopes, aspirations and positive attitudes, whose energy is capable of shifting mountains, has a positive effect on getting rid of despondency.
The human psyche is built using mirror neurons, and moods and attitudes towards life are transmitted through direct contact with a person. This statement is true in relation to any states and emotions, so even if you are a desperate merry fellow, surrounding yourself with depressive whiners, you risk losing your fuse very quickly. Keep track of who you are communicating with and what activities are happening around you. If you are discouraged, then consciously, controlling the process (after all, interest, as the leading system is temporarily disabled), choose everything that is the most opposite to despondency.
It is believed that the opposite of despondency is fun, but this is a rather rough and superficial view, as it reflects only one aspect of the concept. If you look deeper, the opposite of despondency is inspiration or creativity. While despondency is emptiness, dullness, lack of interest and inaction, inspiration includes creation, fullness, vigorous activity, if not physical, then spiritual. It is the loss of communication with its creative component that is the cause of the loss of the taste of life, and therefore it is necessary to overcome the ailment, returning creativity to your life. There is no need to paint, if you have never done this, but you can think about your love for baking and come up with a new recipe or make repairs from scrap materials - all the surrounding space is a clean sheet for the flight of fancy, you need to try to find your abilities and desires.
Look for the causes of your condition and eliminate them, and not endlessly fight the effect. If you are depressed by the monotony and boringness of your work, then you can cheer yourself up as much as you like, but as long as the activity remains the same, the result will be disappointing. In this embodiment, you should either change the activity or add to it enticing elements. The lack of visible results leads to despondency with the same probability as complete well-being, only the formulation is different - there is no point in striving, because everything is useless or because everything is already there. Shaking up, getting out of the comfort zone, arranging copyright asceticism for yourself allows you to feel the lack at first, and then the desires that give rise to aspirations and thirst for activity, sweep away the indifference from the basic parameter of perception of reality.
Do not be afraid to change your life, especially if you don’t care, in the worst case you will remain in the same state. Go to unfamiliar cities, increase your social circle, load yourself with new work or a hobby - it’s not necessary that you will like the new city, and new acquaintances will delight you. Perhaps, from active life changes there will be a feeling of anger at the limitedness of people (and this will give rise to the idea of opening your own development courses), perhaps new cities will be horrified by their filth and disruption (and you will think about the volunteer movement to correct the situation). All the emotions received in the course of the new experience will be useful in order to jump out of despondency, and it will be love and admiration for the world or resentment and anger for the existing order of things - not so important.
Take care of the physical support of your body, because despondency shifts the work of hormone production and somatic sensations - fill the lack of endorphins in all possible ways. The best option is physical exercise (choose your own jogging, gym, fitness workout, pool), bananas and chocolate (direct suppliers of the hormone of happiness in the body), touch and sex (with tactile sensations and orgasm, a huge amount of essential substances are produced that normalize work of the hormonal system). Replenish the supply of essential vitamins (gnaw vegetables and fruits, drink them in capsules or pops - the main thing is that all trace elements are contained in the required quantity), walk more often, saturate the body with vitamin D, which is one of the main assistants in the fight against depression.
Narcotic drugs and alcohol are depressants, so that their use in a state of despondency will drive you into a dead corner, the way out of which will lie exclusively through a psycho-neurological dispensary. If you feel the need to stimulate emotional processes, then it is better to sign up for training with the use of holotropic breathing or to resemble individual psychotherapy.
Do not cease to set goals for yourself, let it be small things for every day - training, meeting a new person, selecting hairstyles. Firstly, the realization of the accomplishment of goals helps to overcome the feeling of your own uselessness, secondly, it gives the direction of movement, and thirdly, it facilitates the process of getting out of despondency, because it’s still easier to follow the written plan, which you can make as you read it. text. Otherwise, in the absence of motivation (and it is precisely this that is bright for such a state), it will nullify all the invented strategies for overcoming gloom.
Sadness and sadness - how to deal with it
Despondency, like sadness, significantly change a person’s life and is familiar to almost every adult. The world, which requires to be in a constant manic state, heroically overcome problems and sorrows even more strongly contribute to the strengthening of such feelings, by their conservation. Fully lived pain passes away, giving place to other, more sunny experiences, and if you pretend that everything is in order, closing the negative feeling into a dark closet (from oneself or from society), it will destroy the personality from the inside, taking away strength and poisoning existence, but not retreating completely, until it is released outside and lived.
The state of sadness does not bring anything good, and in its long course it is able to break a person, therefore many tend to fight him quickly and radically, looking for the necessary pills. The problem is that the medications will help to establish neural connections, metabolism, the nervous system and to normalize hormones, but they will not help to change the world view and ways to respond.
In most cases, the person himself provokes the development of sadness and withdrawal into depression, choosing this path according to habit. Remember how cautious people in society are about joy, but tragedies and bad mood always have a right to exist. The habit of perceiving change as a problem and need for incredible efforts to return everything to its former places does not justify the costs and spoils the mood, closing the opportunity to see behind the changes is not a tragedy, but the possibility of new accomplishments and positive undertakings. It is worth starting to track your automatic thoughts, introduced external reactions, subjecting them to serious criticism and forced search for positive moments. Take a pause, before blaming yourself for being awkward or near, to explain the bad attitude of others by their deformity, not their lack of culture. Such critical thoughts often have no relation to reality, but reflect the opinion (usually causing a severe injury) from previous life situations.
Reinforce your resource status and monitor the internal automatism. Avoid the causes that lead you to a sad state, and if you are already discouraged, then try to choose a clear course and follow it, without remaining without movement.