Admiration is a personality trait that determines a person’s inclination to admire himself (it means both appearance and inner qualities, dignity, achievements and any other manifestations in the outside world and social interaction).

The quality of personality narcissism in varying degrees is inherent in all people only has different expressions, which in turn does not constitute a constant and can manifest itself in different life periods with respect to different qualities and different degrees. It is important to note that the concept of self-admiration always reflects the process of internal involvement or external manifestation, while self-esteem (mistakenly used as a synonymous term) characterizes one of the permanent indicators of self-esteem.

What it is

The propensity to narcissism can begin to manifest itself only at a certain stage of personal development, as a consequence of the emergence of the ability to self-analyze, the separation of one's own manifestations from the rest of the world. This may also be a consequence of the initial level of development of reflection, when the ability to observe and analyze the current situation has already appeared, and the opportunity to objectively assess the situation has not yet been formed.

There is no consensus about the positive or negative impact of this trait on the personality and the course of further life, because this concept, like most human qualities, has two poles, it corresponds to the context of the situation and the degree of manifestation.

Excessive ego can cause a halt in the development and emergence of many blocks in professional development and personal growth. It occurs when a person stops objectively assessing himself, noticing shortcomings and overestimating his positive qualities. In this state, it is not possible to assess your strength or adequately position yourself in society, which is why not only the constructed plans, but also the already existing reputation are crumbling.

The most vivid examples of negative manifestation are all moments when, in the process of activity, an individual focuses not on a result or process, but on an excessive demonstration of oneself for the purpose of narcissism. So the speakers begin to give a lecture, not noticing how much it is oriented to the listeners and if they are not falling asleep in the process, the dancers can disrupt the course of the party and completely change the composition of the work without even noticing it. A person engaged in self-admiration is involved in unconscious processes, which ultimately has a bad effect on the control of the produced activity, its quality.

In the pathological manifestation of self-admiration can lead to a sharp decrease in over-excessively high self-esteem, since the need for constant confirmation of its exclusivity makes one remain in perpetual comparison of oneself with others. A person can be carried away into unrealistic opinions about himself after the slightest success or praise, a compliment from others or a good deed that turns out to be insignificant from the majority.

Such behavior negatively affects not only the self-consciousness and self-perception of the personality, the formation of its qualities, but also social communication. Usually, such people are being avoided, because there is no place left for anybody else in the company, other people's merits can be ridiculed or ignored, which ultimately leads to isolation. Thus, the professional, social and inner life of the individual begins to suffer.

But there is also a narcissism of another property, which allows, on the contrary, to reveal the inner potential, increase confidence and possibilities. This applies to an adequate level, when the process of narcissism is supported by objective factors or even a bit exaggerated, but it works for creative purposes. A kid who praises himself for a successfully completed task will want to develop further, a girl who spends a lot of time in front of a mirror creates a confident and happy mood before going out. Only narcissism gives you the opportunity to see your positive aspects and present them to society, because it is impossible to tell about a beautiful dawn, without considering it as such.

Current trends in virtual communication in many ways encourage the development of this quality. Permanent selfies, reports on the pages of achievements (no matter whether it opens a unique medicine or a cake bought in a nearby store) lead everyone to admire himself first and foremost. Only then these products are laid out for everyone to get a positive response (negative is not meant as a fact of existence in principle, and this is a kind of general agreement).

Narcissism is it a sin

Initially, narcissism is not indicated in a list of sins as a separate item, but the interpretation by many religions and ministers leads to the fact that if this line is excessive, other sins also develop. Just as any commandment is interpreted in its extended form, when not wanting your neighbor's wife, it also means not beating off girls and not watching porn, so self-admiration is one of the manifestations of the ten deadly sins.

When self-admiration manifests itself as hanging out of his portraits or constantly uploading photos, hundreds of selfies a week, and constant hanging out at the mirror, this is regarded as creating an idol. When free time should be given to the attention of God and prayer, a person instead focuses all of his attention on himself, by which he elevates his personality or appearance to a cult. At the same time, it is worth distinguishing it from obsessive obsessions, when a person thus removes the emerging free-floating anxiety and requires more psychotherapeutic help than strict church prohibitions, repentance and confessions.

Over time, narcissism can lead to the development of such sinful qualities as pride and vanity, it can also make a person lie or substitute others. In fact, self-admiration is not recognized as sinful, but it is a fertile ground for the development of many personality flaws, resulting in a violation of the main commandments. In the first place a person has only him, kindness and condolences to his neighbors gradually disappear, he does good deeds not sincerely from the desire to help, but only to get praise or to look more attractive and dignified in his own eyes.

Self-admiration in many religions is considered synonymous with vanity, which in turn represents the most terrible sin, which was the first to divide the existence of humanity into periods of unity and exile from paradise. All church superiors recommend humility and renunciation of the mundane, as ways of coping with vanity and self-admiration. Many people are shown the practice of good deeds and self-denial. This is an activity for which everyone ended up being one of the saints, since only self-denial, which is the opposite of self-admiration, can be overcome this one of the first sins. Putting himself at the center of any activity and what is happening in reality, man pushes the divine into the background, opposing himself to the higher forces, which has always been punished by the most severe punishments.

In addition, the priests, addressing the parishioners in the human language and from the standpoint of everyday, everyday life, warn against self-admiration, because then it will destroy not only the relationship with God, but the whole life of man. Constant home scandals, a desire for more, a feeling of permissiveness, excessive manifestations of egoism - this is only the tip of a huge iceberg of the problems of the consequences of vanity and self-admiration, about which they speak in their sermons.

The absence of a direct proclamation of narcissism in the list of sins does not make it a benevolent behavior, because it has always been condemned that which is not aimed at serving God and people. Revered modesty, lack of care about yourself, the ability to hear other people's problems and endure their own. Saints are often cited as examples, having forgotten their names in caring for their neighbors, who gave up the latter for the sake of serving the highest, putting aside personal interests when it is time for fasting or service. These are all examples of how people overcame self-admiration and exalted themselves. Only through such indirect messages and an expanded interpretation of the commandments can one come to the conclusion that self-admiration is still a sinful manifestation.