Arrogance is a character trait that has exclusively negative manifestations and is manifested in the fact that a person is inclined to put his or her own manifestations and needs above other people. Arrogance of a person is often combined not only with the priority of his own manifestations, but also with a derogatory and dismissive attitude to the manifestations of other people. The only important opinion is only one’s own, the arrogant person criticizes or arrogant attitude to all thoughts, phrases and actions of others.

The concept of arrogance is accompanied by such manifestations as excessive self-confidence, boastfulness, excessive ambition, but it is not a separate synonym for any of these qualities. To clarify this term, other words are used, such as arrogance and pride, which are also elements of arrogance.

What it is

The meaning of the word arrogance is reduced to the desire to exaggerate their own merits, achievements, successes, while a person condescendingly or derogatory views all the achievements of others, no matter how much they are superior to his own.

This trait is not innate and is not determined by any parameters of the neuropsychic organization, but mainly depends on the manner of upbringing and the social environment of the person. This feature is considered not in the context of personal manifestations, but more from the moral and ethical norms and contexts, when arrogance and arrogance are possible, when personal flaws go unnoticed, and virtues are exaggerated to the grotesque state.

The quality of personality arrogance refers exclusively to the negative spectrum, and not only in the general social sense, which is clearly manifested when comparing a person with others, but also to fulfill his own destiny. Behind this feature, an attempt can also be made to hide one’s own complexes, when instead of actually recognizing one’s own mistakes, one tries to show oneself in an exceptionally excellent light. This can be done not only because it really corresponds to such a state, but so that no one else doubts its goodness and impeccability, after which painful and frustrating comments for the ego may well follow.

In such cases, due to the complexes, psychotherapeutic effects are possible, independent work on oneself, after which the state of the person returns to normal, both adequate self-esteem and eco-friendly ways of manifesting themselves in society are returned.

Exceptionally negative quality arrogance is considered when it is due to internal choice and its own position. In such cases, any relationship is broken from business to personal, because others are hard to tolerate such an attitude. Health may deteriorate on psychosomatic nervous soil due to a constant state of tension. Tension is necessary to maintain one’s exclusivity, to fight with one’s own envy and a constant race to be better than others. A person does not have a rest and does not have the right to make a mistake, which ultimately locks the personality in a very narrow and non-developing framework. The more arrogant a person manifests, the less he is able to manifest himself as a true person, unique in his existence. This is an unstable position, where there are no internal supports, and there is only the opinion of others and the constant desire to comply with something.

In general, the manifestation of arrogance suggests that intrapersonal harmony is broken, a person has a serious imbalance in the inner world and self-assessment in the context of interaction. Further, it is not the realism of claims and plans that drags on, with the highest degree of development of this trait, there is a complete separation not only from the true personal identity, but also from society and the universe, as a reflection of objective perception.

Reasons for arrogance

Appears arrogance in a person from the first sense of arrogance, born on the basis of inadequate evaluation by the nearest significant people or social environment involved in education.

Arrogance is never formed at the time of birth or childhood, its prerequisites and the most favorable moments for development are periods of maximum well-being. Those. Those situations, when a person receives recognition, his business is successful, he himself is in his best form - then self-esteem soars sharply. If such a period begins abruptly and has not yet reached the plateau stage, then it is most likely that the psyche does not have time to quickly adapt to the changed conditions and attributes all merits, coincidences and just the slightest change in the standard of living as individual merits. Criticism begins to be lost, and then, when the resulting level begins to be lost or some kind of threat arises for him, in order to keep at least his inner sense of self as before, he begins to humiliate others, treat them with some disdain, trying to show his superiority.

Over time, inadequate self-esteem leads to constant formations of the egoistic life concept and over-developed pride, generating a false sense of self-grandeur with all the ensuing consequences. It seems that it is luck in many cases, the ability to take advantage of the situation and a favorable set of circumstances that contribute to the development of arrogance. And this is true only for a part of cases when the fragile internal structure of self-esteem, focusing on external factors, counts all random achievements to itself and begins to show all the negativism of consequences.

However, most studies confirm the absence of a direct relationship between success and arrogance; many people living below the poverty line who have neither social nor scientific status can be quite arrogant in their behavior and world view. Such a state of affairs is explained solely by the fact that the personality itself is not mature or its inferiority is so great that there is no understanding of objective evaluation.

It is impossible to single out any one external or internal reason for the development of arrogance. It is always a whole spectrum, including both features of upbringing, a person’s ability to react in one way or another, as well as a developing external situation. The level of personal development, perhaps, remains a fundamental factor that affects the occurrence or, on the contrary, attenuation of arrogance. It is easier to single out points that warn against such behavior - this is a high level of personal responsibility for decisions made and actions performed, as well as the level of intrapersonal development, maturity, which allows one to adequately assess oneself and reality. Thus, if a person manifests himself as an adult (psychologically and emotionally), then neither the external situation, nor the resulting complexes can lead to such a development of arrogance or arrogance in order to lose the perception of reality or important social connections.

How to get rid of arrogance

The primary step in the fight against the negative manifestations of his personality is the recognition of the existence of a problem, the determination of its area and the extent of the damage caused, as well as the development of a deficiency. For some, arrogance can manifest itself exclusively in the working environment, for others in all areas of life, it is important for someone to show only their viability as a partner in intimate relationships, while others need to show their uniqueness in all areas of life. It is the definition of these differences that will help determine the main vector of further changes.

Since the basis of arrogance is egoism, it is necessary to fight with this trait. Good practices of doing good deeds for others, participation in actions aimed at optimizing society, and not personal goals. You can highlight the day of helping neighbors' grandmothers or playing with children in the yard, you can hold free workshops or look for what you can give out to those in need, at the same time freeing your home. Learning to think about others and noticing their needs is an important factor in getting rid of egoism, and then you will be able to notice another person and adequately evaluate yourself compared to others, treat without humiliation.

The second point in arrogance is a low degree of internal responsibility, since such a person can assign all the achievements, but will never accept their shortcomings. Logical analysis helps to determine where something went wrong in a situation, where other people are really to blame, and where we are to blame. Internal responsibility is the most difficult to assign a factor of personal maturity, but it is she who gives the result the freedom to be anyone and to express themselves in any way. So, a person free from prejudice and the need to look for the guilty, who does not need constant proof of his coolness, can be anyone, do what he wants, and most importantly, he can do it as he pleases or in a good way.

For those who cannot independently overcome the habitual pattern of behavior, but already understand that arrogance does only harm, individual psychotherapy or participation in the psychotherapeutic group can be useful. If it is not possible to work independently or psychotherapy makes one alert, participation in the general group also helps to look at oneself from others, to build new models of relationships or to hear the responses of people regarding how they live next to such a person. As any inner work will change, not only your own perception, but gradually new strategies of behavior will appear.