Emotionality is an individual's ability to display the content of feelings, moods, and character. Emotionality can and should be considered as a response to the world around us by the manifestation of emotions and their influence on human behavior. Emotionality is peculiar to people, because, showing emotions, we get to know life, paint it with different colors, even if not the most pleasant shades.
The word "emotion" comes from the Latin "emovere" - to push, excite, hesitate. The emotion process is equally psychological and biochemical, occurring as a reaction in response to events occurring with a person. Emotions do not depend on the objects to which they are directed. The same emotion can be manifested at different times on different occasions and completely towards different people and situations, which cannot be said about feelings. Feelings are more complex and always have an addressee. From the point of view of evolution, emotionality is a more ancient form of manifestation of a person’s attitude to the world around him, therefore, emotions are inherent in both animals and humans. Feelings are the prerogative of man.
How to develop emotionality
Emotion is a reaction to what is happening, which can be called "here and now." Emotions manifest at a specific moment and reflect the attitude of the manifesting experience to what is happening. Feelings, on the contrary, have relative stability and consistency and always have an address — the object to which they are directed. Psychologists emit emotions that are called basic or innate. They are named so because they are inherent in all healthy people and manifest themselves equally on all continents and in different nationalities. Basic emotions are common emotions. To date, seven basic ones have been singled out: joy (happiness, contentment), anger (anger, rage), fear, sadness (sadness), interest, disgust and surprise.
The ability to express the strength and energy of their emotions characterizes emotionality as a personality quality. Many psychologists consider emotionality as one of the main components of temperament. In choleric persons, emotionality is characterized by a lightning-like change of emotions, which, moreover, manifest themselves clearly. The emotionality of the melancholic inside, passions are raging there, the speed of the movements of the experiences, but the outburst is barely noticeable, insignificant. Sanguine persons are more sluggish and balanced, emotions are not so violent. The phlegmatic emotionality in complete balance, the birth and manifestation of experiences is not bright.
I think everyone knows the expression "do not penetrate," "thick-skinned like an elephant," "cold," and the like. All these expressions speak about a low level of emotional response. Emotion can be developed.
In order to successfully develop emotionality, it is necessary to get acquainted with emotions and feelings, select for yourself those that a person experiences most often, as well as observe the behavior and expression of emotions, both in oneself and in other people.
Next, it is important to answer the question "what can I change in my behavior?" Emotionality is openness to the world. Psychologists advise to communicate more, because uncommunicative people, as a rule, are closed people. It is necessary to try to show emotions with gestures, words, to talk about feelings, to become more open, to smile more often. It facilitates communication and understanding.
It is noticed that not always the lack of external manifestation of emotionality indicates the absence of emotions themselves. There are cases when, due to the inability to show their experiences (not appropriate, at the wrong time, not brought up, etc.), a person restrains them or in other words suppresses, an internal accumulation of emotional tension arises.
Periodic suppression of one’s own experiences adversely affects human health, both physically and mentally. Unpressed emotions threaten to explode feelings, which can result in hysteria or an attack of aggression and, undoubtedly, manifest in the body by an increase in pressure due to a rush of blood to the brain, a tremor in the extremities, will also affect the breathing apparatus.
Emotionality without discharge, like a sleeping volcano, ready at any moment to erupt and what will be the starting point can only guess. At any moment, the last drop effect will occur and what the consequences will be for nobody knows. Is it worth it to bring to this? The danger of an explosion is associated not only with the suppression of experiences, but also with a person's heightened emotionality.
High emotionality is characterized by the rapid appearance of irritation and an increased response. If you ignore the accumulation of emotions, then the point of no return will come, and under such conditions they will prevail.
High emotional personality has its pros and cons. We can assume that this statement is very relative, because how many people, so many opinions. Let's figure it out. The advantage is that, manifesting themselves, emotions spill out, are not suppressed, are not repressed, are not pushed deeper, but are released into the world. However, high emotionality is basically destructive. Perhaps you are familiar with the situation when, having lost control of themselves, people allow themselves to be superfluous in relation to other people (raising their voice, insulting, knocking on a door, etc.). What then precipitate from embarrassment and feelings about this is often left on both sides of the situation. High emotionality negatively affects the relationship and also negatively affects the person himself, driving him to guilt, forcing him to justify himself and others, accumulating resentment.
How to cope with increased emotionality
Realize that increased emotionality is your character trait. Conduct self-examination. Determine for yourself the level of your emotionality, how quick-tempered and intolerant you are. You can take tests to determine your temperament and emotionality.
Keep a diary of emotions, where you will describe your day and your experiences. And it is better right after the surge of emotional one happened to record what you felt, how you experienced, how your body reacted, where you responded and how the silence of emotions occurred. Having read the written, evaluate your attitude to it. Which of your reactions was valid. What experiences do you have now?
Get to know your triggers - situations that trigger your body again and again to activate all systems and give an emotional reaction, to encourage your emotionality. It is possible that a pattern of behavior in response to a stressful situation was formed much earlier in your head. And, perhaps, this pattern of behavior you are constantly repeating. At such a moment, ask yourself, "What exactly am I feeling now? When did I show such emotions? What is the trigger?" This can also be done through the experience diary. You can change your behavior and your emotionality. Do not hurry. Getting to know oneself, one’s emotionality and one’s emotions is not an easy job. Do not force yourself to do everything at once, too hasty actions lead to resistance. Personality growth is always a way out of the comfort zone, and such a way out is not easy and requires spiritual, emotional and physical expenses. But do not be discouraged "to eat an elephant" is entirely difficult, but in parts it is even possible. If it is hard for you to gather strength and meet your emotionality, set for yourself simpler goals, more attainable.
Get to know the concept of personalization, recognize it and fight it. This is a concept that can cause increased emotionality. It may mean that you feel responsible for things that may not have anything to do with you personally or that you cannot control.
Resist the need. Statements that you must harm someone and make you adhere to standards that can be overstated. Breaking the next "must", you may well experience despair, guilt, anger. You can avoid such situations by examining what exactly is under this "must" and only then decide whether this is so. As a result, you will not experience negative emotions. And the words "must" and "need" can be replaced with the word "I want," if necessary, and things will go much easier.
Act only after calm down. Your emotionality is sometimes not the best adviser and actions under the influence of emotions can lead to consequences that you can deeply regret in the future. Try to calm down before reacting to a situation that has caused a strong emotional reaction.
Let yourself feel your emotions. Adjusting your emotionality, working on heightened emotionality, you should not become completely unemotional, we have already spoken about the harm of suppressing emotional outbursts. It is necessary to get acquainted and realize emotions, to realize also that negative emotional outbursts are also necessary as well as positive ones and try to keep their balance.
In the middle of the last century, scientists started talking about the concept of emotional intelligence. The concept was introduced when it was noticed that a high level of intelligence did not always contribute to the success of a person in his career and personal life. According to scientists, emotional intelligence, unlike intelligence, is the ability to correctly interpret the emotionality, feelings and behavior of other people, intuitively grasp what another person needs, and also have a high resistance to stress. The whole theory of emotional intelligence is based on the assumption that a person is able to accurately determine the emotions of another person, as well as the fact that one can learn to manage emotion. Not only the face, but also the body is able to transmit emotions and if you watch these manifestations and learn to notice them, you can read all the emotions of another person as an open book.
But enough only observations? If your emotionality is high, you will not see a stranger behind your own raging emotionality. With low emotionality, you are not able to see changes in the emotional state of another person. If your emotions are stereotypical, you will never notice the subtleties of mood and the coloring of the other person's emotions. In others, you will feel and see only those emotions that you are capable of. Your brain will give you a reaction that was once the most effective. It is necessary to learn to distinguish the tones and semitones of emotional outbursts. And if your brain is able to shout and cry for joy, laugh and frown, smile quietly, talk about your happiness or go inside, then your brain will be able to adjust your emotions to any situation. Your range of expression and perception of emotions will expand, and your own emotionality will be balanced.
Learn emotions, new words to describe emotional outbursts. Not just "happy," but "immensely happy," "quietly happy," "satisfied and happy," "benevolent." Try on emotions in front of the mirror. Emotional growth, like physical growth, takes time and is not always pleasant. And be patient.