Psychology and Psychiatry

Sense of self-importance

A sense of self-importance is a certain state of mind and self-awareness of a person, expressed in a large level of belief in oneself, admiration for one’s abilities, capabilities, and multiple positive qualities. This is a peculiar positioning of oneself above others, putting even business issues of one’s own jurisdiction in a priority position, despite the objective importance of the need to solve related issues. This is a tendency not only to oppose society in the most favorable angles, but also the need to constantly need to talk about their own experiences, to take care of their own health, well-being, expressing thoughts and fulfilling desires.

For many, this trait is viewed from a negative perspective, since such people are often distinguished by arrogance, egoism and incapable of building environmentally friendly social relations. But the negative impact also applies to the person himself, who uses this behavior exclusively as a defensive reaction, a screen covering the current state of affairs and self-perception.

What it is

Self-importance is not only a category in the psychology or social sciences, it is directly woven into many religious and spiritual teachings, and for some of them has become a fundamental starting point. This personality trait manifests itself as a constant need to talk about yourself, reduce any dialogue and any topic to the issues of your work, desires, those people who are interested and events that are important for an individual, despite the needs of other people. At the behavioral and external level, this is expressed by an excessive emphasis on status, the purchase of expensive and branded items. In interpersonal interaction is manifested arrogance, arrogance, in some cases humiliation or lack of respect for people.

The seeming confidence of such people is only an admitted mask that allows them to hide their low self-esteem and excessive vulnerability from negative utterances. Attempts to seem as important as possible arise from the desire to obtain confirmation of one’s status from the outside, since inner understanding and firm confidence in one’s exclusivity are not enough.

Signs of a sense of self-importance may be manifested specifically for each person, and one cannot state unequivocally that this has something to do with the stages and level of personal development. Rather, there is a relationship between the level of culture, when a highly developed personality with extraordinary abilities does not have an internal culture, various manifestations of the negative side of a sense of self-importance are possible. The link between ignorance and education is not true or scientifically confirmed, because modest individuals with a low level of development demonstrate a lack of disregard for others and arrogance, but on the contrary manifest themselves as helping and sensitively sensitive.

Theological schools see an increase in their own importance as a factor that kills the soul, stopping its development, attracting even excessive, but negative attention to a person. There is always a requirement to get rid of or reduce the manifestation, because those who do not value themselves above others, do not think their features, as an exceptional value, should be honored and recognized by all, can be internally free.

Such comments are not injured by such a person, they do not wind themselves up due to unnecessary problems, they can focus on reality instead of proving to the whole society the veracity of their chosen role. This is courage and freedom to manifest itself as it is, and also to give space for manifestation and realization to other people. When a person does not want to get all the attention himself, a dialogue and an objective assessment of reality, and accordingly the establishment of his own life, appear.

It is important to note that the personality trait of feeling its importance extends to the outside world, to which inadequate demands are made regarding care, admiration and charm, regardless of self-assessment. This sensation is fueled only by external factors, including material wealth, the accumulation of property, and the constant increase in social status. Out of internal changes, rather a sense of self-importance changes the entire inner world, adjusting the personal meanings and goals of a person. This is how a person’s beliefs can be transformed to completely opposite ones, aiming to achieve positive emotions of approval and emotional stroking.

Self-importance is good or bad

Having understood what a sense of self-importance means, for many it becomes a question of the need to define it in the category of positive or negative influence. An unequivocal interpretation of such personal manifestation is present in the spiritual tradition of Castaneda, where getting rid of one’s exclusivity and significance from living becomes the first and most important practice, a fundamental step for reaching a new level and harmonizing space. Thus, such behavior is always viewed as a deception not only of surrounding people, but also self-deception, since only through constant protrusion of one’s merits can a person conceal an objective picture of the flaws present.

When self-development is a priority, then the initial deception or distorted perception of oneself is inadmissible, and consequently, an exaggeration of one’s merits and desires only stops the person. This is a sham that can be compared with a huge investment in advertising instead of improving the quality of goods. It is possible for many others, especially communication with which is superficial, the difference will be imperceptible, but for the person himself there will be a serious threat to the path of development, and perhaps personal degradation will begin. In many ways, the perception of reality is undermined, since starting to close the negative, to present only our own needs, the needs of others and our own shadow sides are excluded from perception. The world becomes flat and inadequate, which ultimately creates the basis for serious internal conflicts. The stronger the gap between reality and what is created by the feeling of its importance, the closer the neurotic state, the severity of which can even reach a pathological degree, requiring psychiatric correction and psychotherapeutic recovery of the personality.

The positive side of this concept is not taken into account, because for the most part this feeling is considered as an excessive manifestation, striking the eye - this was facilitated by certain Internet trends that distorted the meaning only in a negative aspect. At the same time, the term was originally considered as the ability of a person to assess his or her merits, the ability to present them, the absence of excessive modesty. It did not mean the achievement of any benefits or inner self-awareness due to the fact that others are being humiliated or the fact that a person occupies the whole space, more emphasis was placed on the fact that a person is able to appreciate himself. This is the mechanism that, in a healthy psyche, helps to create a healthy reaction to criticism and abandoned incorrect comments. In the right, positive and healthy manifestation of a sense of self-importance implies an internal locus of control, the ability of a person to adequately assess themselves, healthy self-esteem.

It turns out that its own importance in its original version can be considered both as a negative and as a positive quality, depending on the direction and depth of personal development and the manifestation of this trait. But in the context of modern society, the understanding of the term has acquired some corrections, as a result of which it is mainly interpreted from a negative point of view.

How to get rid of self-importance

As in any overcoming of unsatisfying personality traits, the first step is to identify and recognize the problem in order to designate its depth, area of ​​damage, or greatest sensitivity. If a person has already thought about this, such a personal construction prevents him from living, then he himself will cope with its reduction using certain techniques. Fewer errors in the path of deliverance are obtained if you are guided by the recommendations of a guru or psychotherapist who will help harmonize the path of transformation. For those who don’t understand this feature, first aid will come from loved ones who notice a negative trend.

Advice for others is not to accuse and not try to force a person to change, because this is what will now cause a storm of negativity. Until a person gets rid of the feeling of his superiority, any direct statements about his imperfection are perceived as an attack on a person.

Regarding the psychological advice of correcting self-manifestation, there are options based on the physical and mental aspects. The physical aspect is based on the use of willpower, and the main task will be reduced to deliberately switching attention from one's own person. When a person notices that he begins to think only about himself or is distracted from talking to his own thoughts (in some difficult cases, even interrupts the interlocutor), then it is necessary to deliberately switch to another topic. The physical path is most effective, since the thought cannot be controlled for a long time, therefore it is necessary to engage in some kind of activity that requires maximum concentration of attention. You can arrange yourself adrenaline surges - an excellent method when you can not think about yourself and your problems, but only a specific situation remains (climbing, piloting a motorcycle, hand-to-hand combat, etc.). The more often you manage to remain in the present (no matter what), the better the ability to distract from your person will be developed.

At the mental level, the principle remains the same - the main thing is to shift the thoughts and aspirations of the person, but only a simple effort of will is not enough here. Various practices help to bring the feeling of death very well (to imagine that a month is left to live or that this day can end without an evening, that you will never see a particular person, etc.). Understanding the finiteness of life is not accessible to man in everyday and hourly awareness, because otherwise internal anxiety would be so high that it would be impossible to live. However, the periodic shake-up helps to set the priority correctly, where it may be that getting personal gain is not important compared to other people or discussing your appearance completely fades against the background of the disappearance of the whole world.

In spiritual traditions, they always take care not to create a false sense of overcoming a feeling of self-importance, expressed in firmness, that the comments of others are no longer something significant, confidence in their own detachment, etc. So the more it says about overcoming, the higher the likelihood that the trait has acquired a different quality and now the person is trying to become higher due to false deliverance.

Also, spiritual teachings share interesting cunning about how a sense of self-importance is born, and accordingly how it can be reduced. The high emotional intrinsic significance of any life sphere causes a sense of personal significance in the context of the given topic. Practice is simple in description and complex in execution - it is necessary to reduce the significance of what is happening. The secret is that the less internal response a situation receives, if it has less influence on the inner life of a person and its manifestation. If an individual is not important science, then he will not praise his scientific achievements and experience relatively criticism in this area, as well as if a person does not have family relationships, his significance will have other areas to be the basis of manifestation.