Cruelty is a characterological personality trait directly related to the moral and psychological aspects of the personality itself. Cruelty is an attitude that expresses towards people or animals around you, which implies rudeness, infliction of pain, inhumanity, insults and other forms of violence.
There is also another aspect of the definition of cruelty, which includes receiving pleasure from the suffering of another in the course of actions that are unacceptable in a particular culture. Accordingly, the question of how to deal with cruelty, can be solved in terms of the differences in these approaches, as well as have its own characteristics in different cultural communities. After all, what may be considered demeaning and unacceptable for some people, representatives of other cultures can bring pleasure and be revered or express respect.
Common to any manifestation of cruelty is the consciousness of destructive actions. This concept stands apart from affective outbreaks of aggression or from harm caused by drugs or mental illness. When cruelty is always meant a person’s understanding of the consequences of his actions for another and an awareness of their destructive direction.
Cruelty, as a habit, is inherent in people with certain mental disorders. The variety of deviations and their depth can be triggered by a person’s own psychological trauma, a critical moment of life circumstances, or in the process of prolonged cruel treatment of the person himself, as a result of which an adequate perception of the world was violated.
The tendency to cruel behavior is inherent in every person, being the opposite of pity. This means that those who are cruel, capable of generous acts of sympathy, and those who have long endured and pitied, can be extremely cruel to those who were previously protected. Until cruelty is manifested in the active world, a person cannot claim that he fully knows himself and controls his behavior.
The stronger and deeper a person hides his cruelty, the more forcefully she can escape. So mothers who do not recognize this quality in themselves can mock children, children can get eyes at live kittens, and surgeons can perform operations without anesthesia.
What is cruelty
Cruelty is often placed synonymous with aggression, but these concepts can not replace each other. Aggression is filled with feelings (fear, hunger, self-defense, possessiveness), and cruelty is empty. She personifies indifference to the feelings and needs of others, misunderstanding that the other can be hurt, sad or hurt. Cruelty is inherent only to man and is not related to the animal world, there exists pure aggression, which always reflects the needs of reality, whether it is food or protection of its territory. No animal can bring suffering to others for its pleasure.
Many believe that cruelty is aimed at maintaining the uniqueness of one’s own ego and exclusiveness, by showing strength and power over others. Others believe that cruelty is a way of protection, anticipating the possible blows of a stronger opponent or gradually weakening him with constant attacks. The theory of traumatic events represents cruelty, like a certain shell of insensitivity, surrounding a too vulnerable person who, having failed to cope with injustice and pain, turned off his entire sensitivity to the world. At the same time, the same vulnerable core of the personality is preserved inside, and if one gets to it through all the barriers of cruelty, one may encounter a frightened, needy support child.
Cruelty always reflects dissatisfaction with oneself or manifestations of one’s life, attracting others to respond rather than change for its part. This is a feature that hides deep internal problems, such as excessive vulnerability, psychological trauma and complexes, attempts to demonstrate a force that does not exist.
A cruel person is perceived as strong and practically omnipotent (due to a lack of sensitivity and a decline in moral principles), but this trait is not positive and strong among all others. Since there are no internal and external restraining factors (or, more precisely, sensitivity to them), the manifestations each time become stronger. So, at first a person can insult others, then give cuffs, then beat them up to fractures and complex hematomas, and if everything is not stopped at this stage forcibly, then cruelty takes the form of torture, sadism and murder. Thus, it is a self-accelerating tragedy, often ending in crime.
Cruel people are usually hampered by communication, there are no relatives and relatives, but there is a huge baggage of internal pain points. Such people themselves leave themselves with their problems, and their inner world is constantly aching, perhaps that is why their sensitivity to the pain of others disappears.
The only period of manifestation of cruelty as a norm is a short period of childhood, when a child learns to control his own emotional sphere, and is busy with active knowledge of the world. At certain stages, there is a need to inflict pain on others, so that on their own experience an understanding of the rejection of this will come, response responses and consequences will be realized. Problems begin when a given period ends, and cruelty remains.
Causes of cruelty
Cruelty is many-sided in its manifestations, but there is not a single person who does not come across it. Someone is more fortunate, and he only hears about it in the news, and someone lives in it all the time. The reasons causing cruel behavior are as many as there are cases, but they can all be divided into several categories.
The most common reason is dissatisfaction with one’s life, in which the accumulation of stress and irritation requires a way out. Usually those who are closest and least protected are like a lightning rod (in families they are children, at work they are subordinates, in deserted places they are animals and tree branches). This state of mixed anger and powerlessness needs psychological adjustment, since Over time, it leads to psychosomatic disorders (usually the cardiovascular system) and disrupts the social interaction of the individual.
Following this, there is a lack of understanding or indifference to the feelings of the person who is being harmed. Often, people cannot understand how they harm their own words and actions, especially if they are not informed about it. In situations where a person does not have serious emotional disturbances, the responsibility for ill-treatment lies with both. If it is unpleasant for you, painful, offensive, but you continue to pretend that everything is normal, not directly or indirectly making it clear that such treatment hurts you, then the other person will not be able to learn about it telepathically, moreover, he may consider what exactly such appeal you like.
Cruelty, like offset aggression, is increasingly manifested with the advent of society and its norms and rules. When a person does not have the opportunity to show discontent and aggression, defending his point of view in front of an authoritarian boss, then it is likely that he will be frustrated in the family. If upbringing in a family is built on controlling one's feelings and complete submission, then over time such a person will show cruelty in all other available places. This behavior may look really like cruelty, unreasonable bouts of rage, but in reality it is a displaced aggression and requires finding constructive ways of realization.
If in childhood a person was deprived of the experience of pain, did not acquire an understanding of the consequences of his actions, then cruel manifestations can quite often occur in his behavior, without malicious intent, but solely from misunderstanding. A similar condition is similar with pathological deviations in the psyche, developmental disorders and a decrease in emotional intelligence.
The worst cause of cruelty is the desire to avenge the pain. The pernicious consequences of this category are due to the fact that a person chooses the most painful and terrible ways to get even with the offender - from emotional to physical, often stretching it for a long time period and striking blows to the most sensitive places. This happens when the pain inside the person has burned out all the remaining feelings and leads him to madness.
The last causes of cruelty are the most severe and long-lasting in their rehabilitation, as well as the perception of the world that was pledged from childhood. A person brought up in cruel conditions believes that this is not only the norm, but also a manifestation of love, and the correction of such a worldview requires tremendous effort, time and does not always end successfully.
Types of cruelty
Types of cruelty can be distinguished by the object to which it is directed - to people and animals (usually this division is applied in legal aspects to impose punishment on a particular article). Another system that identifies types of cruelty is based on its manifestation and severity.
So, there is a hidden cruelty, when a person does not act directly. This can be expressed in caustic remarks, looking like praise, but diminishing the dignity or in the accidentally spilled hot coffee directly on the knees of another. Open cruelty, as opposed to the first, is usually a more courageous manifestation and harbinger of negative consequences. Here a great role is played by the previously obtained experience, which remained painful and then a person, at the slightest resembling situations, can react with heightened aggressiveness, even when something seemed to him. But apart from such delicate moments, to the open cruelty include the infliction of physical suffering, emotional violence and mockery, intentional humiliation and other manifestations. The legal framework provides penalties for open cruelty, since it is the only demonstrable and the most dangerous of all kinds.
Reasonable negativity also refers to manifestations of cruelty, when a person perceives everything through certain filters, finds explanations for this, but doesn’t want to look at reality. Representing everything in gloomy colors and shifting the accent to the bad side can spoil life, both to the person himself and those around him, besides forming a certain type of perception of the world, where everyone is considered enemies or something scheming, which means they do not deserve mercy. Another manifestation of insignificant cruelty includes constant mockery, teasing, calling offensive nicknames and other minor, but destructive in their daily manifestations.
Different specialists suggest different ways to deal with cruelty: it can be deprivation of liberty, compulsory or voluntary psychiatric treatment, psychotherapeutic counseling, change of activity, correction of the process of education, direct conversation with designation of unacceptable relationships. It all depends on the form and severity of the manifestation of this personality trait in life.