Sympathy is the ability of the individual to feel the sadness, suffering, sadness of others, to live the chagrin that other people experience. The ability to sympathize with another's grief helps a person to be more pleasant to communicate and to establish relationships with others. A sympathetic person can provide support, encourage, calm, and this at the same time becomes an incentive for someone to start looking for a solution to the problem. If sympathy and compassion are peculiar to an individual, it is easy to make contact with him, such people usually do not appreciate or criticize actions or beliefs, these people are just ready to devote some of their time and attention to you in the necessary period of life.
Sympathy we learn from infancy, most often by copying the behavior of parents and close relatives. It is very important to show the child the means of expressing sympathy. If the child is used to, that after any failure, he is sympathized with and supported, similarly, he will manifest himself as an adult.
Buddhism reveals the phenomenon of sympathy and compassion as thirst, to free others from suffering. Buddhists believe that the human essence is compassion, love and kindness. To express sympathy, humanity also needs wisdom.
An interesting look at sympathy was described by David Myers in his work Social Psychology, where the author gives a psychological characteristic of sympathy. Any exciting situation in the life of someone or perhaps awakens in our subconscious so-called distress.
Myers based on three factors of sympathetic expression of feelings. First, by reacting with sympathy to the oppressed mental state of the individual, our psyche unconsciously nullifies our distress and removes the inner feeling of guilt. Myers called it veiled egoism. Secondly, sympathizing, we can, distracting from our experiences, switch to the experiences of others. Third, we are pushed to the expression of sympathy by generally accepted rules. The rules refer to the expectations of society, which dictate specific behavior and emotional reaction. You can describe it as tact, good manners and humanity.
The ability to sympathize with others is a key feature in the nature of the practicing psychologist. Carl Rogers believed that without this quality, the work of a psychologist would be impossible. He describes that empathy (empathy, empathy) is the fundamental trait of the therapist in a therapeutic relationship with the patient, and the basic requirement for the personality changes of the client himself. The characteristic of Rogers' sympathy was the following: the phenomenon is a complex process, including an awareness of the role, experiences and principles of the individual. However, one must realize that this is not a primitive recognition of a person’s experiences, as well as the ability to go beyond the limits of the situation in time and evaluate it from a new angle.
Sympathy and compassion are often used interchangeably, but the difference in these terms can be described as follows: compassion is a feeling of sadness, and sympathy is a state of mind that can bring joy to life.
What is more important sympathy or real help
Have you encountered the question: how to help a loved one? To listen and provide moral support or throw all your resources to resolve the complexity? It is impossible to categorically give an answer to this question, you should build on the circumstances, conditions and the person who addressed you. For one, a financial problem is only a temporary difficulty, for another, a complete disaster! Therefore, providing support should be given the characteristics and characteristics of the person. Regarding your participation directly, there are great risks here; solving problems for your loved ones, you are placing obligations for their lives on a personal account. Subsequently, he will lose his incentive to decide on his own, and at the first difficulties he will simply look for who will find a solution instead of him. Also, your sincere help will not be appreciated and, as a result, you will have more complaints and reproaches than the gratitude you deserve. With sympathy, things are a little different. When a person spoke, he shared with you the moments that disturbed or upset him, he felt that he was understood and supported, he opened up resources for further movement. Also, having discussed the problem with relatives, you can find a solution where it was not even considered before. But if we too immerse ourselves in the problems of others, then we begin to live someone else’s life, while devaluing ours. The main thing is to realize that sympathy and compassion are wonderful, but how to deal with our own questions? Do not overlook the fact that everyone is responsible for the outcome of decisions and actions taken. Protect yourself from the burden of other people's problems.
Do not rush to improve someone else's life, listen, help a person not to keep everything in himself, because sometimes even tacit participation is enough to help.