Greed is the thirst to gain the most, by rejecting less. In simple terms, this is immense traction in satisfying any desire, possession or use of something. A person’s greed is characterized by the desire to acquire, accumulate, retain something more than what is really necessary. In a general sense, greed is the unwillingness to share something, and often even savings on themselves, as well as preservation and accumulation only for their use. In terms of money, greed is the desire to multiply your income and reduce your expenses. The reasons for greed are often self-acceptance, low self-esteem, dissatisfaction with one’s life, and a depressive state.
Sign of greed is insatiable desire, which the individual is not able to satisfy, because he is not enough, he is always a little. This desire arises due to internal dissatisfaction with oneself, attempts to exalt oneself through an increase in material accumulation, and not through personal development. The substitution of concepts of internal necessity by external insatiability does not give due satisfaction to the greedy one, since in this case the development of the personality does not occur. And this in turn leads to an aggravation of the position of the individual in society through his rejection.
There is no cure for greed, but to fight with greed is possible and even necessary. After all, greed affects the mental and emotional health of a person, constant tension often leads to heart attacks or strokes. Greedy people are deeply unhappy, because they are often lonely and cannot be happy.
What is greed
Greed is, in varying degrees, peculiar to all individuals of modern society. It originates from the ancient sources, when food was scarce, and the process of saving it was caused by survival.
Greed arises and is formed at an early age. If in the family the crumb does not receive love, as well as care from parents, especially from the mother, there are fears of loss of parental love, and not a closed need for hugs and good words that the baby is loved, contributes to the formation of greed. Also greed often occurs among individuals who were born in poor families, where there was a palpable lack of money.
It all starts with the upbringing in the family: reading fairy tales at night about generosity and stinginess, learning to share with others, the personal example of parents - all this lays the foundation for further personality development.
The lack of love and upbringing in childhood lays its mark on the formation of an immature personality. The substitution of spiritual values by the desire for material enrichment creates a manic desire to have more. Modern television and advertising only contributes to the development of installations wanting more. Advertising shouts at us sales, rather buy and it does not matter whether you really need it. The game of greed makes people buy what he did not want to buy at this time. A greedy person wants to get more money and material goods, even if he is already well off. The fear of a black day’s misery pushes the accumulation of many things in reserve. Things grow like a lump and clog up space, a person becomes all the more unhappy and becomes dependent on things.
Seeing that someone has a greater desire for envy and a desire to have even more. Fear of the future, insecurity and loss also contributes to the development of greed. In the modern world, the concept that money gives freedom is increasingly being imposed, which in turn pushes people to the desire for money and enrichment to the extent that money and their accumulation become an end in themselves. There is a loss of the concept that money is only a means to buy the necessities of life for them, and not to collect an unlimited amount of them.
Greed happens not only to money, but also to knowledge, work, food, pleasure, power. Possession of something turns into a desire to get it, and this all turns into an endless race. Over time, it is the very process of obtaining, and not the result becomes the goal. Scientists have proved that at the moment when feelings of envy or manic desire arise, the amount of adrenaline in human blood rises, which in turn affects the nervous system and blood pressure. It is noticed that greedy people often suffer from hypertension, gastric ulcer, heart disease and gastrointestinal tract. Also, they often have heart attacks due to the fear of losing wealth already accumulated.
Signs of greed can be noted in the appearance of a person. Such people often suffer from skin, visible rash on the face, which is caused by nervous tension, in which they constantly dwell. In their movements, sharpness, detachment and arrogance to the people around are noticeable. Most often, such people are pedantic, love order and put everything in its place. All this is caused by the fear of loss that someone will come and take the acquired. It is easier to find and control things that lie in their places, and make sure that nothing is missing. Breaking the order is perceived painfully and is regarded as a threat to well-being.
In a family, a greedy person often remains alone, because he does not know how to love people, but only loves money. Close people are a threat to him, as he is in constant fear that everything will be taken away from him. Close people should unquestioningly obey such a person, and work to increase his wealth.
Also concomitant signs of greed becomes stinginess, suspicion, envy, fear of losing the acquired. Greed is the result of uncertainty about tomorrow, fear of poverty and loss of a sense of security.
Self-esteem of a greedy person is quite high due to wealth or power, and it does not matter how this was achieved, moral principles have no meaning, and people around him are considered less deserving subjects as a source of income or work to increase profits. The subject does not feel any remorse of conscience, his moral decline occurs in parallel with the growth of wealth. Rapid enrichment makes your head spin, drives people crazy, money becomes paramount, even human life ceases to have value.
The absurdity of greed with stinginess is that a person, even having money, does not spend it on himself. There are examples of the greed of how very rich people do not buy new things, go to the old to the erased holes, or spend very little on food. Savings are noted in everything, even if they can afford it, for example, using candles to save electricity. In the United States of America, there is a known fact of life and death of a woman who left a huge fortune after her life, but at the same time lived in slums near New York and renting out housing. Even when her son needed to go to the hospital, for several hours she was looking for free help, which led to the amputation of her son's leg. Most rich people do not leave their wealth for their children. Many greedy people end their lives in complete solitude and alienation from society.
A greedy person never gets a feeling of happiness, since this is impossible by definition, he is always short and always lacking, he does not know the measure, because the material cannot fill the void of the spiritual need of development. If you follow Maslow's pyramid in which all human needs are represented by five levels from basic to higher, then basic ones are the need for food, water and sleep, the next level of need for security and fears of loss arise here that are born out of greed to save and not to be missed. A greedy person gets stuck at lower levels of needs and does not move up. All greedy people are selfish and without the realization of this the development of the subject is impossible. A greedy person justifies himself by the fact that he is thrifty and economical, he believes that those around him are jealous, therefore, they dislike it.
Greed is more prone to women than men. Women are more susceptible to envy, which in turn causes greed - the desire to have more than a neighbor. In the modern world, there is a common phenomenon when a woman wants to get an oligarch and marry him to herself. But this desire is not caused by a love for a man, but by a love of his money. Obsession to have an oligarch takes possession of the consciousness of a woman, she no longer thinks about anything and does not please her anymore. An obsessive idea obscures the mind, to achieve its goal, such a woman is ready for anything, she refuses relatives and close people, crosses all moral principles to get what she wants. All this is caused by a lack of love and a lack of harmony within oneself. Money as a drug brings temporary pleasure and makes them want more and more, because the inner emptiness does not go anywhere.
How to deal with female greed? One of the ways to fight can be an exchange of gifts. The key here is the process of donation itself without regret. At the same time, positive emotions make it possible to feel the pleasure of the process of receiving gifts. The most important thing for a woman is to learn not to compare herself with others, we are all individual and unique.
How to get rid of greed
The question arises, how to deal with greed? The first thing to get rid of greed should be the awareness of the person that he is greedy and that the accumulation of material goods will not bring the inner fulfillment that a greedy person needs so much. You also need to determine the true cause of greed, and what caused it. Accepting the problem and its awareness is already half the work for personal development. The concept of self and the disclosure of their real needs gives impetus to further improve their self-esteem, not related to material income. After all, one of the reasons for the emergence of greed is low self-esteem, which arose in childhood as a result of a lack of love from parents and not the correct substitution of values.
It is also important for a greedy person to avoid comparing himself with other people, which in turn will exclude his feeling of envy. The greedy one must pay attention to himself, to his true desires and needs. Turn your attention to the people around him to suppress your egoism. It must be realized that they also have needs and not only material, but also needs for love and attention. Caring for loved ones brings more satisfaction than the accumulation of material goods.
Understanding the difference between greed and thrift is possible by observing other greedy people. To get rid of greed, it is necessary to change established values. It is necessary to consciously understand the uselessness of accumulated things and get rid of them. It is important to control yourself from the accumulation and preservation of new unnecessary. The thought process and constant self-control is necessary in the first stages of the struggle with greed. It requires a concentration on the good moments of life, not related to material satisfaction. For example, learn to enjoy simple things, such as watching the sunrise or the appearance of a rainbow. Feel the happiness of life, watching the happy people who just rejoice in it.
Generosity is the opposite quality of greed and the main aid for getting rid of greed. Therefore, donations and charity are the main ways to get rid of greed. The actual cultivation of compassion for people and the realization that the need for money from someone may be higher at the moment, and is associated with vital necessity. The giving of alms without regret and the ability to give, and not only take, will contribute to deliverance from egoism and greed in particular.
Also, getting rid of greed contributes to the allocation of some bag of money for spending good time with family and friends. Getting the joy delivered to loved ones, and the satisfaction of having a good time, will gradually eradicate the joy of materially saving their money. The rest time spent together with the family will give a charge of happiness and return the location of native people. All these are the initial stages on the path of getting rid of greed.