This article continues the disclosure of the theme of Zen Buddhism in the context of the book "People from the Cabinet". The first part has been published on the Internet. In total in a series of seven parts. One of the key issues addressed in the books is the overwhelming feeling of "failure." The author overcomes even the most "terrible" experiences through meditation ...
After reviewing previous publications on Zen Buddhism, a skeptical reader will ask: "And what kind of results can be achieved with the famous method?" And this is a very correct question! Because the materials on the Internet on all sorts of topics full. They write all - who in that much. A fantasy of the people, it must be said, is inexhaustible. But the main and, perhaps, the only way to separate fairy tales from reality is to make sure of the results obtained. And then even a question helps, the answer to which will be specific and truthful, or it will turn out to be nothing insignificant general phrases that are constantly repeated.
The hero of the aforementioned book has not yet become successful in the full understanding of this word. However, thoughts of the worthlessness of their own lives are gone. Overcome the complex "loser". The person who came out of the closet allowed himself to be himself. Removing the chilling walls, the hero suddenly found himself in many interests and hobbies. Although, before that, he seemed to himself a man worthless and untalented. We can say that he discovered himself. He ceased to be useless. Out of the state of "rejection". I acquired a new, unfamiliar feeling called “I am.”
He stopped living in a constant inner reproach: "You have not achieved anything." He forgave himself for all the blunders.
Overcame such states as the feeling of "humiliation", "unworthiness". Understood: just like everyone, he has the right to a full-fledged, respected life. And you do not need anyone else to ask "permission" for this life, the right to be yourself.
He broke past destructive relationships. Undoubtedly, to find a new self had to live alone. And not just to live, but to feel in it the pleasure of staying with yourself.
Needless to say, in the context of the “wounds” revealed, the question of success has ceased to be the only and necessary condition for a happy life.
However, the main question of this article is not disclosed yet: what does Zen meditation ultimately give a person?
Zen does not promise execution. Zen gives relief. Isn't that what the reader is ultimately looking for? And it does not matter in what way the desired "happiness" appears - whether it is a successful career, a reliable family, the birth of children, the establishment of relations with someone. In any case, a person wants to have a good inside.
In addition to being free from their strongest attachments, Zen teaches us to accept life and people as they are. By the way, each of us needs it, and especially our children, and all relatives, close people. Inner calm makes us especially patient, understanding, humane.
In constant meditation we get rid of the eternal inner fuss, anxiety, haste and empty aspirations. In a global sense, we learn to live and receive bliss from this life. But you need to learn all your life - this is human nature, it always requires continuation.
In conclusion, I would like to note: the famous American psychotherapist, Irvin Yalom in his writings sometimes shows concern for his patients. He doubts the "truth" of the result. Speaks about some kind of apparent well-being, beyond which it is unknown what is hidden. Is the problem really solved? And what really lies under it?
In this sense, Zen works with everything inside. He does not give ready-made patterns of behavior or universal recipes. Before each person, he opens his way. Because who, if not you, knows better than anyone what you need and what is bad for you? We can say that Zen is a guide to itself.
And Irwin Yalom is infinitely right in his doubts, because no one knows whether something is left inside or not? This can be known only in endless meditation of contemplation ...
To be continued - No need for approval as a guarantee of success.
In the following publications, each of the above-mentioned aspects of the “insurmountable” desire for success will be phased out.