A sense of humor is an individual personality-psychological feature of a person, which is manifested in the ability to notice the contradictions and features of the surrounding world, people and events from a comic point of view. A good sense of humor is often an important social characteristic of a person, and also reflects his intellectual abilities.
The process of creating a joke and finding a new solution are quite similar - in both cases, you need to find a successful original combination of actions or words. People who have this skill more developed or better trained, show the best results in solving complex and non-standard tasks, and also have a good sense of humor.
A sense of humor is formed in early childhood and is a reflection of the environment and models of parents' response to various life situations. The more jokes and examples of highlighting the ridiculous in any situation surrounds the child, the better his own ability to joke develops. If there are few such examples in childhood, then a person forms a straightforward character and a limited view of the world, rigidity of attitudes and intransigence, which ultimately leads to social problems.
An unequivocal view and definition of a sense of humor does not exist. They are trying to measure and characterize many social disciplines, as well as linguistics and anthropology. Numerous theories of humor are put forward, explaining both its causes and purpose. In most cases, it is believed that humor is able to defuse the situation, relieve nervous tension and even reduce the level of aggression. Smile and grin are similar in nature, a lot of jokes and laughter are built on the troubles of others and their own superiority, so the theory of the shift of aggression into a socially acceptable form was born. When a direct attack was denounced in society, a moral and verbal attack appeared - in jokes, irony, sarcasm.
The more primitive jokes (cake in the face, footboard, etc.), the lower the level of development of society. Most often, such jokes are found in the closed systems of the army, prisons, degrading society. The higher the spiritual level of a person, the more developed the ability to abstract oneself from the situation (and therefore be able to analyze and synthesize, think in the scale of society, and not just one’s own personality), the thinner and more interesting the humor. The quality of education and mental organization directly affect the sense of humor. It has nothing to do with thoughtless remarks, which border on ridicule, can offend a person. Humor is always aimed at improving the mood of all those present. A good sense of humor always helps to establish strong and easy social contacts, rather than destroying them. Humor can reflect social mechanisms and the overall level of social order.
What is a sense of humor
A sense of humor is a character trait that you can develop in yourself. It helps initially relate to the situations that arise and provides psychological and emotional stability. This is a social category that emerged with the emergence of society, with its own laws and regulations. In the animal world there is no humor, just as it will be absent in a person brought up outside of society. This does not exclude laughter and jokes at a low primitive level. Such laughter and fun, which is associated with pain, resentment, and suffering of another being, has nothing to do with humor.
In many ways, humor plays the role of psychological protection, when it is precisely giving a comical meaning that helps to survive overly difficult moments. A humorous description of the situation triggers certain mechanisms in the brain that form new neural connections, as it connects the familiar ones in unexpected ways. It is in the unpredictability and originality of the comparison that the main function of the funny character lies. In addition, each study notes the specificity and subjectivity of the perception of humor. For example, jokes inherent in doctors and the military, police and rescue civilians can be perceived as rudeness, disrespect, and so on. The black humor of these specialties is explained precisely by the activation of the defense mechanisms of the psyche, which make it possible to ignore the horror that is happening and the daily clashes with death.
Another variant of psychological defense with the help of humor occurs when a person is confronted with taboo topics. The resulting voltage must be somewhere sublimated or find other ways of contact with what is happening, except for direct interaction. Laughing in such situations helps to relieve a significant part of the tension, and also allows us to consider the situation from a different angle, not forbidden.
So another function of humor is gender. Men need to have a sense of humor in order to please women, attract their attention and give positive emotions. Women prefer just such men, because subconsciously the ability to joke is perceived as the ability to adapt to any situation, to own various methods, of course, except for moments when laughter is a reaction of embarrassment.
Men, in turn, choose those women who laugh at their jokes, comic situations or are able to joke themselves. Since not only the active production of humorous situations, but also their understanding indicates the degree of development of a sense of humor. This is a kind of natural selection of people of the same level of development, both among friends and in creating intimate relationships. Building interaction with a person who is not amused that you will cause enormous difficulties, and vice versa - the strongest and most lasting relationships among those who laugh at the same things.
How to develop a sense of humor
In our reality, we must have a sense of humor that will help us become successful and cope with many things. Its development becomes more important than pumping muscles and working out the speed of the reaction. Physical moments are more and more inferior to moral and social primacy, and, consequently, the question of how to develop precisely one’s ability to humor is becoming increasingly relevant.
A sense of humor does not have a genetic condition, but is only influenced by external conditions, in particular education. Someone was more fortunate, and he trained this ability in his own family, and someone will have to try himself. In any case, this is not a static category, but requires constant development. Even the one who was originally a great joke, can lose its relevance along with interest in what is happening. Remember the grandfathers who continue to joke about Stalin or telling the same anecdote, perhaps earlier they were famous humorists who stopped following the change of events.
To stay on the wave, develop your communication skills. Humor is, first of all, communication, interaction at the level of words and the ability to change the mood and expectation of people. The more people will be in your environment, the more often you will contact them, the higher the sense of humor will be. You will automatically catch an interesting train of thought of your interlocutors, learn new events. The more diverse the public with whom you communicate, the more different information will flow into your consciousness, the more factors you will be able to make new connections between.
Start with yourself and find the ridiculous in your actions and appearance, manner of speaking and the course of thoughts. Look for funny things in everyday situations - this kind of humor is most appreciated. The ability to find something funny in everyday life, to look at everything from a different angle pleases much more than the prepared jokes expressed from the stage. While you train to look at yourself with irony, you not only raise your own mood, but also train the ability to notice the funny. An additional advantage is the establishment of high stable self-esteem and the ability to get out of any situation. Instead of worrying about your own tousled hairstyle in the morning and trying to put everything in order, you can laugh about it. And if you laugh at yourself, voicing the comments to someone, then you will notice that people will treat you warmerly, not when the styling is perfect, but when you can chant about the mess in your thoughts and curls.
Look for the ridiculous thing. Try to find as much as possible funny, creative in the usual things or think of their non-standard use. An umbrella can be a Jedi sword, dry macaroni with a magic wand, and a television console with a way to call an omniscient voice. There is such a technique for developing divergence of thinking, which involves finding non-standard ways of using standard items (newspapers, rulers, chewing gum, spoons). You can start such training, looking for a variety of options for one subject. Over time, you will begin to select similar variations on the machine for everything, including situations and people.
Develop constantly, it concerns the general erudition and vocabulary. Many are inaccessible to those whose vocabulary is limited, since humor is built on a play on words. A broad outlook will help ensure that your jokes are appropriate in any situation and are authentic to the context of the conversation. To apply this knowledge in practice - develop associative thinking. It is precisely this that is the key to humor - the ability to pick up an unexpected ending to a familiar phrase, reinterpret a word, beat a situation is possible only with the appearance of several parallel associations in several areas.
Tolerance and sensitivity should be your regulatory qualities. Black humor is welcomed among surgeons, but not at a funeral, you can joke about some kind of nationality, just belonging to it, etc. Each time, evaluate the situation and the interlocutor, noting topics that may hurt or offend. At first, you can be safe and impose a full taboo on jokes about death, religion, politics, nationality, age, physical and mental disabilities, as well as having sexist moments.
Develop a sense of the funny at the subconscious level. For this, comedy films, humorous literature, relevant social networks, and entertainment programs are well suited. The more similar materials you watch and listen to, the deeper your own sense of humor will be worked out. Over time, you will begin to distinguish cheap jokes and subtle intellectual humor, understand the very scheme of construction. Looking through such programs or columns you do not need to memorize the jokes, but just watch and in time will appear your own.
Use irony when things or events are given opposite evaluations or descriptions (for example, "I hate her so much that I get married" or "she was fat as a ballerina"). This contrast causes a smile after surprise. Do not forget about gestures, facial expressions and intonation. The same phrase, having a different color in these ways, produces a different impression.
How to "bleed" sense of humor
In order to "pump" a sense of humor, it is necessary to carry out appropriate measures to prevent its disappearance and only then develop it. It is necessary to maintain an optimistic view of the world, to communicate with people who are able to find a way out of any situation and maintain their own mental balance. Ensure optimal rest and development, full communication and development directions. Physical and moral fatigue, immersion solely in work, the absence of a change of activity and communication turn life into a monotonously stretching train of repetitions.
It is necessary to solve the accumulated emotional problems in time, since they will give a bitter hue to the whole surrounding space. Sleep as much as your body needs, because a tired person is not able to generate something new, which is a sense of humor, and acts only along the same path. In addition, dreams give rise to fantasy and new images. Get rid of the desire to repeat a good joke everywhere and everyone - it is important to focus on the context of the situation, as well as on who is present. It is unlikely that a friend who hears from you the same humor in all places will consider you original.
Orientation to the audience - the main point in the availability of jokes. The humor that has to be explained for a long time is bad, so leave highly specialized taunts at work, and do not expect grandmother to understand accents in youth subcultures. Consider the level of education of the interlocutor, since incomprehensible words can deprive the whole phrase of meaning, and their explanation can take even longer - it is better to choose synonyms right away.
Choosing jokes, many try to conform to subtle and high humor, but sometimes the situation is reduced to the absurd or absolute stupidity can defuse the situation much better. For example, in a quarrel with a girl it is useless to joke thinly about the illogicality of her conclusions - most likely this will be taken seriously and will cause even greater offense. But exaggerating her words to the maximum, for example, saying that "I am the most terrible person in the world and deserve to be burned at the stake for unwashed dishes" with further unsuccessful attempts to light a match can turn the situation around.
Exaggerate the situation and your feelings, hyperbole always contributes to exaggerating the contrast and highlighting the comic. For example, you can meet someone ten minutes late with the words "I knew that you would come every day and every night, without leaving this place for ten years." For such phrases to be born quickly, it is necessary to work with the speed of associations that can be trained every day. So it is necessary to find five associative subjects for the first subject that came up and from these six words make up a small funny story. The more such stories per day will be invented, the better. Then associations can be replaced by antiassociations and pick up five opposing concepts.
The permutation of words in the expected sentence works perfectly. This is unlikely to cause a wild attack of laughter, but a smile on people's faces with reservations always appears. Use for this purpose similar words, so that the meaning is still intuitively captured, and did not make the phrase a set of empty words.
Change the established expressions - it produces a greater effect, because over the years of perception in one well-established variant, the brain becomes more accustomed to other variations. The stronger the broken link, the greater the effect of surprise and more creative joke. For example, "a woman from a cart - Mercedes is easier", "I want to ask for your foot" and becoming already popular "will you marry me to work?".
And never warn people about the upcoming joke, except for the moments when history itself requires it (anecdote, author's theme, quote, real story). The longer people wait for an unexpected turn, the less they are surprised. In addition, the lack of a comment will help you determine whether your humor was really successful.