A sociopath is a subject suffering from a personality disorder that has a negative attitude to the prescriptions of society or behavioral standards, the desire to resist them, including resistance to the traditions of a certain social group of persons. The sociopath is distinguished by impulsivity, hostility, and a rather limited ability to form attachments. A sociopath is a person who tries to achieve the satisfaction of his own ambitions, desires by any means, regardless of the feelings of the surrounding individuals and generally accepted norms. Such a person is not able to adapt to society, does not like human beings and even close ones.
Who is a sociopath
All individuals are different and this is, of course, their advantage. But there are individuals who stand out from the masses by their recklessness, folly, eccentricity.
Sociopathy is a mental disorder of behavioral response. It is also referred to as dissociation disorder. The individual suffering from the disease in question is unable to form harmonious relationships with the social environment. For him, there is no distinction between adequate, appropriately established standards, behavior and actions that violate the rules of propriety or are illegal.
Considered disorder is quite common in today's society. Approximately 3% of femin and 5% of the sons of Adam are subject to this pathology. At the same time, of them, the prevailing majority (about 80%) become offenders.
Modern scholars have established that the human subject possesses two forms of existence from birth: biological and social. As a biological individual, he is an intellectually formed creature in comparison with the rest of the animal world. As a social being, a person living in a society, the individual uses and produces spiritual and material culture together with other representatives of this society.
For millennia, the properties of humanity have been fixed in the human genome. Today, the body of human beings and their nervous system are formed, already adapted to socialization, including training, education, the assimilation of moral norms.
Sociopaths, according to scientific theories, have a genetic disorder that occurs during conception. It is this which does not allow hereditary memory in the brain to form human qualities.
Thus, it can be argued that a sociopath is a genetically unhealthy individual. It is precisely because of illness that sociopaths cannot socialize and integrate into the existence of society. Simply put, a sociopath is a person who is unable to become a full-fledged member of society.
Often sociopaths can be found in the circle of religious fanatics who severely condemn and infringe upon the rights of other believers. They do not want to know about other faiths. Such individuals come up with their own religion, alter cult teachings, philosophy. Being able to eloquently express themselves and possessing the power of persuasion, they subordinate the masses of people to their own will, forcing them to fulfill certain requirements.
People who deliberately infect others with incurable illnesses, mainly through sexual contact, are also sociopaths. Their ideology lies in the desire to do badly surrounding individuals due to the presence of an incurable disease. Over time, they begin to perceive their own illness as a certain instrument of power - “I want — to infect this subject or not to infect”.
There are many sociopaths among the cruel Lovely men. These charming egocentric personalities collect their "victims" and adventures. Skillfully falling in love with young charmer, ruthless women lovers abruptly throw for the sake of conquering another passion. Such subjects are delivered by the unknown pleasure of tears, hurt feelings and lostness of abandoned women.
Small sociopaths have a high degree of hostility, high self-esteem, often turning into egocentrism. Aggressive behavior affects everyone.
A child-sociopath can deliberately throw a stone at another kid, kick a yard dog, pull money out of dad's wallet, steal something in a supermarket.
Small sociopaths vigorously oppose adult surroundings and close ones, they are markedly contemptuous of family relationships and values. Remorse the conscience of such children are alien. Also, the feeling of shame is unknown to them.
How to become a sociopath
Manifestations of this personality disorder are usually debuted in childhood, but it is easier to recognize them in the puberty period. They persist throughout their existence.
Today there is no reliable hypothesis explaining the nature of this disorder. However, the reasons for the emergence of sociopathy, such as: brain injury, a hereditary factor, environmental influences, exposure to stressors, pedagogical errors of significant adults, can be put forward as more likely.
A significant impact on the occurrence of a dysocial disorder is often caused by the presence of concomitant mental pathologies, for example, schizophrenia, oligophrenia.
Individuals suffering from antisocial disorder destructively react to any actions and deeds of the environment, if such actions are aimed at narrowing the “range” of their freedom or do not correspond to their aspirations. Strategic thinking is absent, therefore, interest in establishing long-term relationships is also excluded. Such subjects recognize only unconditional obedience, considering the surrounding individuals only as tools for achieving the desired. Often, it is sociopathic personalities that become the “leaders” of charismatic religious formations.
Subjects suffering from the disorder being analyzed are predisposed to various kinds of pernicious addiction (drug addiction, alcoholism). Alcoholic bondage or drug addiction in such individuals is not generated by the desire to hide from reality, but is caused only by the desire to satisfy their own needs and the lack of security considerations.
You can also identify less common causes of sociopathy, for example, the desire to imitate a person who has the disorder in question (more often, this person is someone from reputable relatives). Also, the “fertile” ground for the birth of sociopathy in children is considered to be an atmosphere of increased control and a constant ban in the family. When domestic intimate conversations are minimized, and cruelty is a variant of the norm, then the appearance of sociopathy is entirely natural.
In addition, there are individuals who are consciously seeking to become a sociopath. Since they are convinced that it is easier for sociopaths to survive in the modern realities of megacities. In order to achieve in the mortal reality of something, it is necessary to erect a wall of cruelty, selfishness, uncompromising and heartlessness, to hide the present under the guise of self-centeredness. They reduce any communication to the necessary minimum, treat other subjects as subordinate, showing their own superiority over them, bringing irritability to despair, and indifference to tears.
These behavioral models are quite enough in order to be known as a sociopath. However, such behavior, if it becomes the style of existence of most people, can lead to a degeneration of the nation.
Signs of a sociopath
Below are the main bright signs of an adult sociopath. First of all, for individuals suffering from a dysocial disorder, there is an inherent lack of conscience, an inability to morally control oneself. This is manifested in the propensity to violence, coercion, cruelty. If something bad happens to people, some tragedy happens next, then sociopaths do not show sympathy, they are unable to empathize.
Caught in a crime scene, a sociopath never admits his own guilt. He will appeal to abstract matters, such as politics, the injustices of life, the bad nature of the victims.
Also, an individual suffering from an antisocial disorder is distinguished by irresponsibility, which usually manifests itself in professional sphere or studies. A person who has a dissocial aberration is hard to think about someone other than his own person. That is why he often violates the rules, behaves wildly, acts impulsively. It is difficult to come to an agreement with him, but having agreed with a sociopath, one should not hope for responsibility on his part.
Sociopaths are pathological liars. At the same time, the majority of subjects suffering from the disorder described are distinguished by a high level of IQ. Therefore, the more mature and reasonable they become, the more refined their lies are. In order to achieve the set level, these personalities are ready to use all the available cunning, mercantilism and performance of the mummer. They are able to inspire something to other subjects, to fall in love with their own person, the opposite sex, to force others to do what they need.
A sociopath is a person who possesses a great pride. Such people like to revel in their own person, to seek approval. Conversely, they are sharply intolerant of criticism or simply ignore it. Dissocially minded individuals vitally need admiration and attention. Therefore, they are trying in every possible way to awaken among the entourage an interest in their own person, passionately wanting recognition.
Sociopaths love risk, dangerous situations. Often their acts of a dangerous nature are based on the power of the people or they have intimate overtones. The simple being of the philistine is not for sociopaths, they are bored with the simplicity of everyday life. Therefore, by any means they seek to get a thrill.
The described category of people likes to manipulate others. They like to lead among weak-tempered individuals. After all, they are characterized by an inert life position, so a sociopath can easily influence the mental activity of "weak" individuals and their actions.
People suffering from the disorder being analyzed do not need close relationships. Because they do not feel pity, sympathy. They do not know love. They are quite aggressive, often provoke fights over trifles, constantly demonstrate moral and physical superiority not only over other individuals, but also over animals.
Sociopaths are unable to learn from the blunders and draw conclusions. Even after a significant oversight, they will not change the sequence of actions and behavioral model, which will lead to a repetition of the situation.
The following are the main signs of the analyzed disorders in children. The sociopath child has inherently high self-esteem along with excessive aggressiveness towards the environment: he can calmly beat his peer, throw a pebble at a passer-by, torture a cat, rude a loved one, steal money.
The more mature, knowledgeable and stronger the child becomes, the more ruthless and clever his behavior becomes. Only a fear of cruel punishment can stop a small aggressor, because he does not understand conversations on ethical topics, instructions, persuasion. His behavior functions in accordance with the principle of the conditioned reflex, typical for the animal world - he did wrong, accepted severe punishment (pain), in order to avoid pain, one must no longer perform such an act.
It is important not to confuse genetic children's sociopathy with flaws in the educational process - pedagogical neglect, since behavioral manifestations may be similar. When the crumbs are marked pedagogical shortcomings, then you can correct his actions through teachers, significant adults, psychologists. If the violation is of a genetic nature, only psychotherapeutic methods can help, but such help should be permanent in order to avoid relapses.
How to behave with a sociopath
The considered category of persons is quite charming, but this impression is formed by superficial communication. If in the environment there is a subject who is famous for his hard-heartedness and a tendency to manipulate people, then it is necessary to know methods that allow one to cope with antisocial persons in order not to remain emotionally drained.
If the child is a sociopath, it is recommended that you seek psychological help, but it is better to get psychotherapy to diagnose the disorder and correct behavior. The correction of the behavioral model should be made exclusively with the participation of parents.
When it was possible to recognize an antisocially directed individual among employees or acquaintances, it is recommended to distance himself from him, because he will not be able to reeducate, and appealing to feelings, conscience, morality, empathy is useless. It is better to save your own energy in order to spend it on meaningful and pleasant things for your own person.
And the first rule says - less time to spend on communication with the antisocial subject. If a person realizes that a sociopath has appeared before him, planning, using his desire to achieve the desired, it is better to immediately abandon the interaction in order to avoid unnecessary suffering in the future. However, it is so easy to do with a stranger, but it is much more difficult if a relative suffers from a dissocial disorder. First of all, you should learn to say a clear and definitive "no." Nothing better discourages the category of people in question, as the lack of "recharge".
In arguing with sociopaths, defending one’s own position is necessary calmly, without showing emotions - no raised tones or tears. The main thing is to continue to stand your ground, even when trying to manipulate or otherwise influence the decision.
In order not to allow sociopaths to control themselves, it is necessary to comprehend how such individuals are guided. Antisocial people do not want to make a better world, do not want to help others, do not want to put obligations on their own shoulders (even to their loved ones). Doing good deeds is not for them. The described category of persons seeks to have power over others and apply it in order to get what they want - money, pleasure, sex. Even if they do good deeds, it means that they have conceived something. Antisocial personalities are constantly deceiving partners, because they, at all, lack guilt.
In interaction with the category of persons in question, one must always be on the alert. You can't let them take them by surprise. Therefore, one should not show emotions in the presence of a sociopath. Any emotional manifestations in front of antisocial individuals is an additional “tool” against oneself. Demonstration of feelings will make it clear to sociopaths that a person is easy to manipulate. Therefore, when dealing with such personalities, one should fully control one’s own behavior and words. A smile is more acceptable in their presence. Therefore, even if the mood is worse than nowhere, it is impossible to demonstrate this to the interlocutor-sociopath. The best weapon against antisocial subjects is a smile.
It is also necessary to demonstrate to a person suffering from a dysocial disorder, his own balance, confidence and steadfastness. With internal discomfort, a sense of vulnerability, it is better to stay away from such individuals.
It is necessary to pass all information received from an antisocial person through the prism of skepticism. You can not believe his words, trust facial expressions and intonations. It must be remembered that sociopaths are notable manipulators, since they lack pangs of conscience, moral guidelines and are ingrained egoists. Knowing these features is easy to resist these charming manipulators. Indifference and calm - these are two tools, armed with which you can give a fitting rebuff to anti-social individuals. For example, if a fellow sociopath reports that the manager is not satisfied with the latest report, you should not believe it, you need to hear this information directly from the boss.
It is impossible to tell these immoral, egocentric individuals about their own experiences, relationships, family, plans, desires and dreams. Any personal information is a tool of manipulation in the hands of these subjects. In addition, they can use them not only in relation to the individual who has shared personal information, but also against the people appearing in it. In order to eliminate manipulation, it should be made clear to these skilful puppeteers that a person does not have the necessary connections, money, position - in general, all that can help a sociopath in achieving personal gains.
No need to hover in illusions, believing that people suffering from dissocial disorder can be changed. Therefore, if you have to interact with this immoral manipulators in everyday life, you need to reduce your own expectations, do not trust them, do not allow them to learn about their weaknesses, desires, dreams. С ними всегда нужно быть начеку. Нельзя утрачивать бдительность.
Зачастую описываемые субъекты неспособны признаться, что они подвластны расстройству личности. Sociopaths will not graciously protect society from communicative interaction with their own person, because, despite their antisocial orientation, they need human beings as if in the air — even if they are perceived as “lifeless objects” that are necessary to achieve their selfish goals.
Thus, revealing a manifestation of sociopathy in someone from the environment, it is recommended to gradually stop the relationship. You should avoid places where you can cross with him, less likely to answer calls, gradually nullifying any interaction.