First postulate. Fighting feelings is always pointless and even harmful. Feelings need to be recognized. And agree with the fact that "I have them."
Agreed What's next?
Second postulate. Excessive experiences this is the very litmus test, by which one can determine the area of "not my health" and, of course, the area in which "I need to work on myself."
Third postulate. Surrounding in your feelings there is nothing. Do you disagree with that? In your experiences he is guilty, she, they, and in general all? In this case, you can talk about the presence of the disease, which is called "dependence on others"! And it is expressed, above all, in the dependence of the individual's feelings on the manifestations, behavior, the supposed reactions of others and on the random circumstances of fate.
At this point, of course, the reader may refuse to read further. He is free to leave his life as it is. Along with this will remain intolerable inner experiences. Well, what can you do? The owner said: "Everything is fine, it is not me who is to blame, others are to blame here!" You can try to control the behavior of others and try to subdue random circumstances. The result is uncertain. Man cannot control anyone but himself.
In another embodiment, the event participant takes responsibility for what happens. And then you can talk first about managing feelings, and then about getting rid of them.
Fourth postulate. Any feeling is manifestations of oneself, one’s very strong needs for something. Everyone has undeniable rights to their own needs.
Fifth postulate. At the first stage of awareness, feelings (any) need their manifestation. Another question is how to manifest them correctly, so that their negative consequences are not reflected on anyone. For example, earlier an individual wanted to pour a bucket of dirt on the public in order to establish his right to this bucket. But everyone has the right to have feelings. It is unconditional as well as the right to life, birth, fate, and in general to itself.
Finally give yourself this right: to feel. You can experience different emotions: both positive and negative. Because before us is not an angel and not God, but simply a man, with his usual pain. A bad mood is a normal part of the life process. Even when you have worked on yourself, you have become more perfect and better still sometimes you will be in the grip of frustration. And this is completely normal. It may be necessary to conduct practical exercises for self-hypnosis.
Exercise 1: Your feelings have the right to be
Remember all your childhood grievances and sorrows. In your presentation, say their figurative "correct" mom. Imagine how she listens to you and fills you with warmth. You show feelings in full acceptance of the good. You get the right to their lives. Because your feelings are a part of you, an important, integral, component part, forming an integral personality.
Exercise 2: Self-suggestion
I have the right to any feelings. My feelings are part of me. I live, so I feel. My feelings are my territory. Anyone else is entitled to their feelings. My manifestations are my territory.
Postulate sixth. It is not normal to pour out a tub of mud on others.
It is important to stop the fact of public expression of personal experiences to ask others about permission to be yourself! It is important to stop, also to demand from others to meet their own needs. Because a self-sufficient person is able to give himself everything. Learn to carry your feelings alone. Your task is to live your emotions yourself. Deal with them (become stronger). And the option for advanced is to completely get rid of inner pain. An example of such an exemption is set out in the book series People from the Cabinet. About this further.