Psychology and Psychiatry

What is a civil marriage

Historically and legally, civil marriage of a heterosexual couple, registered in the registry office, but without religious testimony, is considered to be a civil marriage. This formulation is used in legal, legal and other aspects recorded. However, there is a difference in understanding between legal definition and popular, everyday understanding. Over time, the meaning of the concept was changed and, since the post-Soviet times, has become synonymous with cohabitation. Many sources reflect precisely this interpretation, implying the absence of not only church, but also state registration of relations.

A civil marriage chooses more than eighty percent of our contemporaries polled at the age of thirty, a couple of decades ago this figure was no higher than fifty percent. At the same time, besides the state stamp, the form of building relations itself is in no way different from officially and church-registered. The couple together leads the farm, lives, has total savings or debts, has children and goes to relatives on weekends. Such relations, like official ones, are regulated by current legislation and relevant articles. In some moments they simplify life, in some they complicate - like any situation, the issue of registration of relations has two sides.

Such relationships are quite convenient for many, because they give a lot of freedom and the minimum amount of externally regulated responsibility. In addition to legislative aspects, the advantages of civil marriage are also found in the psychological self-perception of a person. It is resorted to as an alternative by those who are disillusioned with the classic marriage, as well as those who find it convenient to live together for a certain period of time. Often such cohabitation occurs among students studying in other cities, and then returning back or among divorced people.

Pros and cons of civil marriage

The popularity of civil marriage is not surprising, since this form of relationship gives a greater sense of freedom, does not feed stereotypes that have long outlived themselves, but, on the contrary, opens the way for experimentation. At the same time, not all such elections are dictated by personal desire, some are forced to agree to this kind of interaction, while suffering dissatisfaction.

The advantages of a civil marriage, as well as its disadvantages, are vehemently discussed by supporters and opponents, and in order to make a decision, it is necessary to understand the concept. Of the moments testifying in favor of this kind of relationship, is the possibility of checking or a kind of rehearsal. Without registering relationships, not giving eternal vows, people can test themselves for readiness to live together and their partner for compliance with their own ideas and wishes, to understand how compatible they are in everyday life and ways to realize their potential. This is an opportunity to finally look at and see with whom you are going to build a future life.

Such opportunities are absent in the period of courtship, because it is easy to hide the shortcomings due to not a long stay nearby. When a person is near most of the day and manifests itself in everyday life - many negative qualities come to light. That is, such a trial version allows you to protect yourself from a quick divorce, when life kills all the romance.

There is no need to please the relatives of your partner, moreover, you can not communicate with them or not get acquainted. This also includes the fulfillment of all the roles imposed by society — the hostess, the wizard of all trades, the smiling daughter-in-law helping her son-in-law. You can continue to live your life by buying convenience foods in a supermarket and forgetting about the birthday of your partner’s mother. You can do something only from your own desire and at the same time you will not have to wait for reproaches, and your half will not be told at every meeting that you need to get a divorce.

The biggest advantage is the feeling that these relationships are based on mutual feelings, love, affection, and not obligations and fear of losing material support. When any person can leave, without obstacles from the outside world, the other feels the need and their own importance. Romantics and people who value each other choose freedom in relationships with concern for their partner, providing him with a daily choice and the opportunity to both leave and stay without resorting to the tricks of blackmail. This option is optimal for those who care about the person and his feelings, and not for those who seek to preserve the semblance of the family, having lovers and not greeting the spouse.

Divorced people or stepped over a certain age, disillusioned with official relations or trust in others, in principle, choose this type of relationship. This allows us not to correct two accomplished personalities, each continues to live in relation to the life concept that has been formed over the years. In addition, the rich life experience (often negative) makes you stay away from the eternal vows and any bonds of relationships. If you choose high-quality communication with mature self-sufficient individuals, then the lack of registration is a great option.

The disadvantages of civil marriage are mainly provocations of infidelity by the type of relationship itself. The ease of care and the absence of fixed commitments make other people look like potential partners, accept signs of attention, etc. When entering into such relationships to try, people do not want to save them, and any claims are always ready for an answer about the absence of commitments and obligations.

Often, such relationships end because of heightened emotionality, when people break up in a fit of quarrel, and then cannot begin to communicate, continuing to be bored. In a registered marriage, going through all the legal stages, the couple has the necessary opportunity to meet and discuss the situation several times, but already without emotions and, having weighed all the arguments, change our mind, find another way out.

You can easily leave the relationship, but your partner can do the same. In general, for those who like to control, manipulate and build unequal interaction, civil marriage is one complete disadvantage. Also, the disadvantages of civil marriage are significant for those who are exposed to public opinion, since the older generation will definitely condemn this type of relationship, and the family of the woman will vote for the official painting.

From a legal point of view, after a long unregistered residence, many problems arise from the proof of the fact of residence to the determination of co-accumulation. Moreover, the property is not divided equally, that is, if you did not work (although you kept the house, helped your partner with the main work, raised children), then you will not get anything. Not less difficulties arise at parting if children were born in unregistered relationships. In order for the situation to be resolved, only the consciousness of both participants in the couple will be required favorably, otherwise paternity will have to be proved, forcibly and for a long time to seek permission to meet with the child and many other nuances that are decided in court.

What is civil marriage and cohabitation

In everyday life, civil marriage is considered synonymous with cohabitation, but these concepts still have differences, and, when it comes to the dissolution of the union, these differences are very significant. From a legal point of view, only civil marriage is considered. It does not matter for the state whether the act of registering relations was supported by various rites of religious marriage. People who have entered into marriage exclusively in the church can be spouses in their inner sense and within the religious concept that they adhere to, but for the state they are strangers and are considered cohabitants.

Cohabitation involves the coexistence of a heterosexual couple, without formalizing the relationship. There is no burden of obligation, but there is no legal and legal security.

If civil marriage, relationships in it, rights and obligations of spouses are clearly stipulated in the legislation, then for cohabitation such norms are rather conditional. The process of dissolution of relationships in a civil marriage, it seems more difficult, because it requires official reassurance, while, when cohabiting, it is enough just to pack up and part. In fact, the situation may turn out the other way around and with long-term cohabitation one of the participants of the relationship remains financially unprotected, there are many difficulties with the design of children and the order of interaction with them.

So children, by definition, remain with the mother, and the father, without her agreement, will have to prove his fatherhood through the courts and seek meetings with the children through legal proceedings if the mother is initially against. That is, the presence of a formal procedure can affect life, not only during parting. For example, only family members are allowed into hospital resuscitation wards, which means that if you live together, you will not be able to visit your partner. This includes questions of inheritance, because cohabitants do not get anything, even if the experience of a relationship is sixty years.

Misconceptions about a civil marriage

The first misconception about a civil marriage was discussed above and it consists in merging this concept with cohabitation. It is on the basis of the substitution of terminology that other ambiguities also arise.

So many, this form of relationship is perceived as disrespect or a consumer attitude towards a girl, because she does not have any protection or guarantee. It is clear that here it is said about cohabitation, but a religious moment is also possible. For believing families, it is more important to record the relationship in religious terms, and everything else is secondary, without the blessing of the church, living together can be considered fornication and sin. In fact, these issues should be resolved personally by spouses, and not relatives or ministers of religions.

The next most massive mistake is that a civil marriage is short-lived. No data confirming such a thought. The length of a relationship depends on people's feelings, and they can last for decades or weeks, regardless of form and official registration. There is also an opinion that civil marriage is somewhat falsified and there are no sincere strong feelings in it. Motivation of people is different and many people choose this form of relationship precisely from deep love and a desire not to bind a partner.

The misconception that in the event of a rupture, all property is taken away from a woman, and the man is deprived of paternity, born of a misunderstanding of legal subtleties. In fact, there are rules governing the division of material property for any cohabitation, as well as laws establishing the procedure for payment and communication with the child, regardless of the registration of the relationship of the parents.

The main myth regarding any relationship is that there is a correct or ideal form of building relationships. The truth is that each has its own personal style of interaction and speed of disclosure in front of a partner. Someone needs control, and another needs freedom, some understand that they have found their own person and on the second day of their acquaintance go to the registrar office, others decide to formalize their relationship after twenty years, having common children.

No one will guarantee that the passion will remain or that the spouse will not change, and moreover, no one will promise one hundred percent happiness, so any statements (other than legally defined) regarding civil marriage are only the personal position of the author, and not the truth.