Composure is the innate or self-developed ability of a person to choose a logically correct course of behavior in extreme conditions. This trait implies the adoption of such decisions, which will help to overcome a negative situation, while the person regulates his judgments with the help of common sense, devoid of emotional coloring.
Because of this trait, cold-blooded people may seem restrained, closed, possessing a high level of self-control, but this does not mean such a permanent state. Human nature is changeable and each has its own limit of patience and control, which is why composure is not a static indicator - for those who are faced with a crisis situation against the background of well-being, the level of restraint will be higher than that of those who have already passed many stressful moments.
What it is
Composure does not imply emotional detachment and coldness, despite the fact that the root of the word contains these concepts. Rather, it is about the full or maximum control of one’s emotions, that is, the ability to hide them or move them to second place in situations where the development of an emotional response can interfere with a favorable outcome.
This quality of personality cannot be unambiguously attributed to the positive or negative spectrum. In addition to making independent decisions regarding salvation or solving crisis situations, composure is manifested by cruelty, a high degree of inhumanity. In its negative manifestation, cold-bloodedness is peculiar to maniacs, distraught scientists, emotionally burned out wardens and medical staff who are not able to respond to the level of human suffering. This side is connected with the lack of empathy and as a result of the frustrated instinct for the preservation of another human being - the killings become long and painful, care turns into torture, and the achievement of any goals fully justifies any casualties among society.
Positive manifestations of composure are the ability to operate solely with facts, to preserve the integrity of the sphere of their personal experiences of an intimate nature. Such a person is hard to manipulate and it is almost impossible for him to interfere with the assessment of the situation. This feature helps to build a clear plan even in the most unusual situations, changing at high speed, which ultimately gives a person a state of calm (or it is this internal stability that allows you to maintain balance).
Many want to learn composure, pursuing personal goals - to calm the nervous system, to direct life in one harmonious channel, to solve emotional problems. It is worth noting that this task is quite feasible, because the quality of cold-bloodedness is not inherent, although it has some biological rationale (strength of the nervous system, temperament features, etc.).
Composure helps not only to respond more adequately and correctly, but it becomes a real need in some areas of activity (military, rescue service, surgeons, crisis psychologists and other specialties directly working in the risk zone). In addition to extreme situations, the ability to take control of one's emotions helps one to exist in conditions of teams with high competitiveness, poor microclimate and resist manifestations of mobbing, blackmail and emotional violence.
The development of composure
The need for emotional abstraction rests on finding ways to develop composure yourself. The relevance of this ability is increasingly increasing, because it is the control of emotions and their influence that become the main sphere of tension and weakness for many, because physical labor and objective physical danger are better solved by modern society, while emotional security remains open.
It is possible to develop composure only depending on the individual characteristics of the psyche; each person will need a different amount of time for this. Those who are characterized by increased impulsiveness, hypersensitivity will feel certain difficulties in controlling the emotional sphere, because, in fact, for such people it is a requirement to learn how to live differently.
Initially, everyone needs to learn to notice the emerging emotions, because in order to control something, it is necessary to understand not only what is happening around, but also inside, to realize the mechanism of the emergence of super-strong emotions. It is not worth trying to suppress emotional impulses by force during this period, it is important to note all their occurrences and causes, so a person will be able to understand which situations or personalities provoke poorly controlled reactions.
Try to eliminate or minimize contact with irritating factors. In the case when this is not possible, arrange your day so that their appearance was predictable for you. The effect of surprise and lack of training increases stress levels and reduces the ability to control.
You can reduce the manifestation of negative emotions with the help of special breathing stabilizing techniques or regular exercises. Psychotherapeutic groups, yoga and meditation studios are well suited for this, for some physical exercise will be an excellent option, allowing you to lose excess stress. It is easier to control emotions, until they are accumulated to a critical level, but if you suppress them with strong-willed effort, then in time some trifle can provoke a surge. Preventive measures aimed at improving the work and stabilization of the nervous system are the primary rule in the control of the affective sphere.
After normalization of the regimen and familiarity with the mechanism of one’s own reactions, sensitivity to the onset of an emotional outburst develops. It is good to use the physical side here, as the fastest method of regulation. The higher the mental stress, the more it manifests itself in the physical plane (muscle clamps, vascular spasms). Accordingly, muscle relaxation leads to the dispersal of emotions. After a nervous day, you can go for a massage or in a spa, and when approaching an uncontrollable flash, you can stretch stiff muscles or take a relaxing posture.
A strategy for solving problems of absolutely any nature should consist in direct action. The more a person concentrates on an undesirable situation, ponders the worst-case scenarios, the higher the level of nervousness and experience. Waiting for bad news usually turns out to be worse than the news itself, so eliminate uncertainty. Control the direction of your thoughts, always trying to follow an optimistic path - look for support or stories on the Internet about how people have overcome this. A collision with something unexpected always makes it rather scary in the eyes of the victim, and the understanding that this has successfully gone through a lot of people stops transforming the situation into an exceptionally stalemate.
Before taking action, and also before telling others about what happened, consider the situation. Remove emotions, conjectures, fears and assumptions from your own thoughts and narrative - dry facts must be left with what is present and what we would like. If this is not done, then the level of emotional stress is high and physical relaxation is necessary first.
In situations of not acute criticality, but chronic pressure, it is necessary to find sources of additional joy. Focus on the little nice things that surround you also always - shift the focus of attention from negative to positive. Even if you are constantly being substituted at work, asking uncomfortable questions and getting on your nerves in every possible way, the joy of a cup of delicious coffee or a gratitude to your friends for a good evening will help stabilize the condition.
The shift in focus of attention concerns not only the coloring of the event, but also the time perspective. Always look to the future and from the standpoint of development assess the criticality of what is happening, perhaps the significance of the tragedy will fall so much that it will even not take any steps to solve it, or it will help build a completely different strategy.
Develop your communication skills and social circle - this will not only help absorb the life experience of different people, but also provide a huge source of support. In addition, communication with people from different areas helps in solving many issues from a purely practical point of view. Also take care of your rest and all-round development so that psychological burnout does not happen. The one who knows that there is a certain time in the day, provided only for him, when you can turn off the phone and relax, doing something that brings immediate pleasure, copes well with working deadlines and crisis situations.