Arrogance is a personal quality, manifested in the indifference of a person to the opinions and feelings of others, the tendency to put oneself above all others and their needs. An important point in defining arrogance is to demonstrate one’s contempt, attitude, without respect for others, which manifests itself both verbally (ridicule and derogatory remarks) and non-verbal (facial expression or disregard).

Psychology considers the quality of a person's arrogance as a category that is formed in the process of development, under the influence of educational and social factors, but also sometimes it leads to the peculiarities of psychological development and the psychological trauma received. Reflects the arrogance of the processes occurring in the ego, and is formed on the basis of self-esteem, the perception of their personal qualities, but, unfortunately, not in an objective perspective.

What it is

The arrogance of people appears as a result of a distorted perception of their own personality, when the slightest merit or achievement is perceived as super-important or relevant. The prism of perception of one's own contribution is broken so much that a person paints the execution of everyday affairs and even tasks of an average level of complexity as an achievement that the whole world should appreciate.

The inadequacy of self-esteem and assessment of the level of others leads to the fact that an arrogant person considers himself to be much more successful, worthy, intelligent and beautiful than in reality. In comparison with others, arrogance gives rise to the attitude that everyone is unworthy and flawed, even if objective indicators say the opposite. There is a peculiar veil in front of a person that does not allow to adequately respond to what is happening, which actualizes other negative manifestations of the personality, such as the tendency to be rude, arrogant and vain, and, at a more subtle mental organization, to touchiness, egoism, desire to manipulate.

Despite the fact that the main characteristics of arrogance is a violation of self-esteem and behavioral aspects of responding to social incidents, the cause of the arrogant world view is education. Parental incentives, of course, must be present in any upbringing, since they form confidence and the ability to cope with further life difficulties, but with excessive praise a backlash is formed.

The child, who is often praised, and using the wording, where he is called the best or compared with others, forms confidence in his own personal exclusivity, especially when parents try to cheer up the crumb or replace it with some other functions of communication. The further favorable remarks of elders from reality are, the less adequate the child’s self-esteem will be, since from childhood a person is taught to perceive others as initially unworthy or lower. To avoid such a development, praising or scolding a child is necessary only for the committed actions, clearly highlighting his actions, while not evaluating the person.

Favorably, this quality is only for the erroneous own perception of a person, for others it is mostly a negative experience. Arrogance also has a negative effect on the level of the general development of a person, his personality and cognitive sphere. Motivation almost completely disappears, because there is no sense in pursuing something, considering yourself to be the most successful. The longer a person lives in a state of arrogance, the more likely the onset of early emotional turmoil, because reality always restores the natural course of things. At such moments, people face their own impotence, insignificance, underdevelopment and other characteristics of underdevelopment and erroneous opinions about themselves. We have to reorganize our interaction model and seek help from those whom even greetings considered unworthy. A person can change the situation in time if he orients himself in signs of arrogance.

Signs of arrogance

The manifestation of arrogance is the lack of a person's ability to notice the talents, achievements and worthy qualities of other people. Also suffers from the ability to notice the actions committed for him by others, help, favorable reviews or forgiveness of mistakes.

A sign of arrogance is the inability to evaluate everything that others do for a person, any contribution is taken for granted, and besides, those who spend their time may be made claims of insufficient quality or speed. At the same time, an arrogant person does not feel any moral or activity debts - this is a kind of parasite, who considers himself to be exceptional, can only receive.

It is possible to increase suspiciousness and sensitivity, which is due to the fact that people around you start making comments about arrogance or inadequacy of assessment. The more the level of arrogance grows, the more often a person begins to think that society underestimates him - this causes not only an insult with withdrawal and isolation, but also provokes multiple conflicts. Inability to withstand criticism and responsibility - the main features of arrogant personalities. All the problems are to blame for others, there are always explanations to justify their own missteps.

Arrogant people avoid questions, believing that this is a sign of ignorance and a demonstration of their need for help from others. The need to leave a reputation for infallibility remains so high that a person chooses to remain without the necessary information, even if it suffers from tangible harm. It comes to ridiculous options when there is no internal opportunity to ask the way in an unfamiliar place or ask the waiter to tell about the specialties of the dish in the new restaurant. At the same time, the only motivation is that even strangers do not suspect incompetence in a situation where the phenomenon of lack of orientation in an unknown area is normal.

Next to the fear of showing one’s ignorance, there is the inability to admit mistakes, to accept someone else’s point of view. Sometimes stubbornness in upholding one’s opinion leads to disastrous consequences if a person occupies a leadership position or his activity is connected with working with people. Obstinacy and self-righteousness do not allow to say the words of apology. Even if a person agrees under serious pressure from someone else’s position, he will externally show discontent and remain silent in admitting his mistakes.

Increased egoism and love of attention manifest themselves in the revitalization of general meetings and conferences or even among friends. Such a person seeks to ensure that only he spoke, without taking into account the level of interest of others in his speeches and with hypertrophied sensitivity to interruptions or remarks. The person himself is not able to listen to the speaker, all the information seems insignificant, stupid or not worth attention, therefore interruptions and the simple inability to immerse themselves in the interlocutor's story are frequent.

Communicating with people is clearly not his circle causes excessive irritability, shown by all available means. Tolerance is absent, as is the opinion that any person is a unique person. Here even direct insults, cruel jokes and bullying are possible.

A sense of superiority provokes such manifestations of pride as the absence of elementary signs of politeness and upbringing, for example, to greet a person when they meet first or to lend a hand. One gets the inner feeling that a self is so significant and exceptional that everyone else should notice it and say hello first, otherwise the increased self-importance is created by ignoring others.

The problem of arrogance

The problem of arrogance is acutely concerned not only with the person himself, but is generally social, because communication in a similar vein does not bring benefit, pleasure, development, but, on the contrary, only worsens the psychological self-consciousness of the nearest society. Not only friends quickly turn away from such personalities, but also superficial acquaintances begin to pretend to be seen for the first time. Professional understanding, support and a friendly atmosphere also cannot be in the presence of a person who treats condescendingly, and sometimes disparagingly to others. Personal life may resemble walking on a "minefield" or be absent completely.

Arrogance impedes normal, equal communication, and until a person with inadequate self-esteem understands his mistakes, there will only be victimized individuals in his inner circle. The tendency to sacrifice, reduced self-esteem makes people look for confirmation of their inferiority outside, and then the one who thinks himself a deity, fully realizes their picture of the world. At the same time, this alliance cannot be called neither harmonious nor productive, but only strengthens the destructive features of each.

The intrapersonal problem of arrogance is that a person is still trying to deceive himself in his exclusivity. In fact, the subconscious mechanisms for assessing reality work quite well, and the inner voice always reminds a person of its shortcomings. The more often and stronger such reminders, the more intense the person makes his contempt for others, because this is the only way to change the reality available to him. As long as a harmonious person will notice his own shortcomings, and look for ways to overcome them, developing new qualities, an arrogant person will look for flaws in others or deliberately slander someone's reputation illusoryly elevating.

In a situation when life confronts an arrogant person with reality, his real helplessness, he is very frustrated, at such moments it is possible to fall to the other extreme. A person is sharply aware that all his achievements and good qualities were only the fruit of his imagination and begins to belittle himself, again not seeing reality. If the situation does not unfold in such a way as to show him the real state of affairs, then the risk of reassessment of his moral, physical and other possibilities increases. This is followed by failed projects, broken relationships, general exhaustion, intrapersonal crisis.

Examples from literature and life

The subject of arrogance is often present in life, so it inevitably became a storyline for literature and cinema. There is arrogance based on social division, and it is manifested by relevant examples. For example, at a meeting a man may call for a complex and paid project, arguing that he will cope better with the presence of women who are stupid in advance. Class arrogance is manifested in the reluctance to attend any institutions. For example, a person who identifies himself as an elite may be squeamish about loft coffee shops, preferring restaurants, and a poor artist can avoid expensive and pretentious clubs, arguing that the unworthiness and low spiritual development of the regulars of these places.

An arrogant attitude is encountered by the teacher in relation to the students, when instead of listening to the point of view of the youngest, to understand the problem and the difference of views, the teacher chooses to push his position with authority. Heads of large organizations, especially those recently appointed, have arrogance that is aimed at everyone. Employees who have done their jobs beautifully for decades become incompetent, and relatives and children suddenly have to obey any will.

Arrogance can be found where there seems to be no reason for it. The hairdresser will look judgingly at a client who does not understand the principles of cutting, despite the fact that she is successful in other areas. The seller in the market can criticize the taste of an aristocratic lady, and set an example of herself, without taking into account her opinion and need for advice. The narrower the person’s outlook, the lower the level of his general awareness, the more likely the development of an arrogant attitude and positioning of his path is exceptionally correct.

Such social problems are widely considered in classical literature, especially in Chekhov and Dostoevsky. The reactions of the characters are not always described by arrogance, but there may be descriptions of a haughty look, impatience in disputes, stubbornness in their position, lack of sensitivity to someone else's opinion, position, state.