Cyberspace makes obsessive harassment possible even by correspondence and in social networks, but this does not make them less unpleasant. Constantly being heard out signals of messengers, the impossibility of concentrating forces one to look for ways to politely “shoot” the guy by correspondence.
Specific phrases depend on the individual situation, so if you have communicated a lot before, but now you no longer like the direction of communication, you can stop the attacks with messages by writing that you were pleased to discuss general topics, but now you are more inclined to live a real life. Such a statement helps to cool the eagerness of Internet friends, since everyone understands that no message can withstand the actual events taking place. It is important that a person who is annoying on the net has no opportunity to arrange your real meeting.
For a polite refusal, the following phrases will do:
“I like talking to you, but we don’t come together”;
“I’m not in tune with relationships, so sorry”;
"I have a boyfriend";
"Having understood myself, I realized that we are not a couple"
Say that you are too busy to communicate now, and regular messages distract from work. You can also voice your unwillingness to communicate in principle, you can refer to whether you are sleeping or traveling - the inability to verify these facts gives space for options.
You can beautifully “shoot” a guy by correspondence using formulations about the need for a break, time for reflection. But direct bans on communication act as an activating means, so if you are in the heat and say something like that, then get ready to increase attention. In this case, excellent opportunities for blocking the contact will help, otherwise the annoyance can spoil a lot of nerves.
How not to refuse: the mistakes of girls
The pursuit of politeness and modesty sometimes has the opposite effect and girls can not “kick back” the unpleasant guy. There are a number of common mistakes that make guys think that this is just a part of flirting and they need to be persistent. A close look in the eyes is perceived as heightened interest, and the laughter of a guy’s jokes is the answer to his advances, so these reactions should be controlled, and it’s better not to show at all if you are going to stop communicating.
So you should not flirt and wait until the young man himself guesses about the inexpediency of manifestation of attention. It is optimal to say about your unwillingness to interact immediately or at least ignore the interest shown. Refusal, uttered with a smile, dull eyes, lack of confidence in the voice are perceived as encouragement. But this does not mean that it is necessary to immediately show rudeness and express obscenely. Quite adequate guys deserve a human explanation, even if up to this girl met a dozen boors.
You can practice your ability to refuse, not only to guys, but also to any people, in situations that do not suit you. A firm and direct refusal, said once, but with the right expression of the face and intonation, leaves no special options for a normal person. If you continue to pursue and after that, then this may be a signal of the personality violations of the fan and then it is better to take up ignoring such an interlocutor. If the conversation concerns old acquaintances or friends, then you should not hold it among people or in correspondence. Respect for a person requires your personal meeting and discussion of all possible options and consequences.
Explanation of the reasons for the refusal, even if only briefly, is necessary for the person to have a complete image. Avoid using criticism of the individual, his preferences or attitudes in such explanations; it is better to explain this by personal attitudes and impossibilities or reluctance. Until the specifics appear, there may be a feeling that the girl is simply naughty.