Bragging is a tendency to exaggerated praise of one's own personal qualities, virtues, achievements, and sometimes exaggeration is so great that it turns out to be fiction. The love of bragging helps people to get the desired approval, favor, the ability to effectively stand out against the background of others, unfortunately lasting a similar effect may not last long.
These manifestations are especially characteristic in childhood, when there is still no criticism of what is happening and an adequate assessment of their abilities and qualities relative to other people. The younger a person, the greater his need for support and approval, the desire to please others and be the best works at the instinctive level, because without the sympathy of adults, the baby cannot survive. In addition, childhood is the age of discoveries and a multitude of achievements that happen for the first time. The fact that for a mature person is already the norm and everyday habit for the child is happening for the first time, so he so unbearably wants to share his achievements, global in the context of his personal life and existing skills.
But not always boastful behavior remains in childhood, some transfer it as a model of behavior into adulthood. In such cases, the consequences of boasting can lead to personal traumatization of both the boaster and his entourage. Listeners of such exaggerated laudatory speeches can have not only a feeling of irritation and a desire to prove to the speaker the opposite, but also toxic envy, resentment, and a decrease in one’s own self-esteem. This is due to the fact that in the imaginary world one can be anything and ideality can be enormous, while it is practically impossible for a real person to achieve similar results.
The emergence of boasting in childhood is due to the lack of adequate perception of the surrounding world, which is smoothed over time and finally passes after adolescence. This is also one of the ways of honing the skill of self-presentation (demonstration of new clothes by girls) and competition (in cases when there is a struggle, who is stronger or better than the guys). When occurring at later stages of personality formation, heightened boastfulness always has deeper personal reasons.
For many, boasting is a compensatory behavior with reduced self-esteem and the development of an inferiority complex. So a person, feeling his own inferiority, understanding the unworthiness of his personality and the insignificance of skills and merits, is trying to at least a little to rise by exaggeration and lies. If such complexes are formed by others, then the desire to prove to them the opposite will only increase.
Control and self-esteem instead of the internal locus are shifted to the outside world, and it is the surrounding society that is the dictator of the self-perception of human self-perception. The need to be accepted and recognized in the end leads to the fact that a person ceases to feel the edge of reality, and only seeks for praise and recognition by any means.
Self-esteem really temporarily soars upward and a person feels inspiration and euphoria when people look at him with admiration, but just as quickly this state collapses. Over time, it turns out that the stories of one’s own greatness can only be told to strangers in order to get the desired dose of recognition, because those who know the person well know their real capabilities, and sometimes are tired of listening to fairy tales.
Another reason for boasting is the desire to manipulate the human mood, and usually to change it in a negative direction. So, bragging about your success, you can cause the envy of your friends, and having appeared with a new expensive decoration at an event you can divert attention from the hero of the occasion.
Even over heightened boastiness can hide mental hunger for warmth and human relationships, as well as spiritual emptiness. Social isolation, reaching its extreme manifestation, pushes a person to any means of receiving attention, and when there are no constructive ways, self-praise comes in. When spiritual emptiness and the inability to support any topic, a person can talk about the only object available to him - about himself.
In any case, such manifestations are always backed by dissatisfaction with their lives, with some aspects of it or with their personality traits. Happy people do not swear and do not praise themselves, they are able to focus attention on others and objectively evaluate their failures and achievements.
Psychology of bragging
Considering boasting not only from the point of view of morality, but also from a psychological point of view becomes more and more relevant, since such a personality characteristic is not that it increases in the number of manifestations, but is popularized and even becomes something akin to the norm. The surge is mainly triggered by the development of social networks, where it is very easy to embellish information about yourself, hide all negative sides, and position the desired image. Competing relationships in the labor market, as well as in personal interaction, also push people to embellish their own qualities.
In the context of social change, we can talk about the emerging positive aspect of boasting, because among the mass of information, other people may not know about the truly talents present. This is done by special areas of public relations and advertising, talking about the achievements and benefits. An important point that has emerged exclusively recently is the distinction between the provision of information about oneself, with the aim of increasing opportunities and development, and self-affirmation at the expense of others. There is no clear framework of negativism for those who praise themselves, if a person has learned to do this using factual data, but criticism of the use of humiliating for other comparisons and outright lies is still preserved.
In addition to the change in the psychology of perception of this manifestation in the modern aspect, the former moment remains where boasting plays a compensatory function. This may be excessive exposure of their material benefits when there is no family, exaggerated attention to the career, if it is impossible to maintain a conversation about new technical inventions.
People continue to brag about things and beautiful views made in rented apartments or in other people's cars with one goal - to create an image of well-being. It is this success mask that helps a person to hide his true fears and sore spots - for a career woman, the need for a family, a beauty for lack of sincere communication, a businessman for not being able to relax, a student for money and so on.
The society is designed so that everyone gets a direct example of boasting, you just have to take a closer look to separate your own envy and anger, as well as a feeling of rejection from the actual events and you will learn to distinguish between boasters. There is boasting, the purpose of which is to increase one’s own social status in the eyes of others. In these cases, a person can tell about where the windows of his apartment go, to describe the hotel in detail, arriving from the rest. This can also be attributed ostentatious exhibiting their acquaintances with famous or influential personalities. Phrases are usually pronounced in comparative formulations, that is, a person does not simply describe where he was or what he has, but certainly indicates to the listeners that they will never achieve this or are not big enough (house, car, business), beautiful (sofa , bracelet, press), successful (project, son, style) option.
There is also an empty boast that does not have a moral exaltation or a demonstration of status - these include various fictional stories where reality is gradually lost. A person can tell absolutely amazing stories about his adventures, encountered magic characters, the ability to influence reality indirectly. Here a striking example may be the character of Munchhausen, but at the same time such people are found in life. They talk about the fact that they called the necessary transport with their thoughts, saved the life of a person with their arms, traveled without a penny to the most expensive resorts, where they were taken for a messiah.
Those who use boasting to promote themselves and their business usually do not resort to the first two descriptions. They do not demean others in comparisons, but simply describe their capabilities and priorities, while relying on facts, without fiction. It is with such better to continue to interact. Communicating with those who are trying to assert themselves at the expense of others, can significantly knock down the level of self-esteem. With visionaries, it is worthwhile to always be careful, as long as it does not cross a certain line - it is very exciting to have such a friend, but if you develop too much, when the stories do not stick to reality at all, you can talk about suspicions about the development of the psychosis of psychosis.