Personal growth is a mandatory process of self-improvement of the individual, purposeful movement and the desire of the subject to embody the person who he would like to be in the ideal (the “I” perfect). All the factors, conditions, opportunities that bring him closer to achieving the goal, and are personal growth, which is one of the main and most significant meanings of the life of the individual. Through this process, a person is able to change himself, any character traits in the direction he needs, eliminate complexes, learn how to control the expression of emotions, get rid of negative thoughts. The personal growth of each subject is different, since the ideas about their ideal self are completely different for all individuals.
The personal growth of a person implies the steady and constant development of the potential of the individual. Potential is a generalized system characteristic of the individual and psychological personality characteristics of the individual. It is based on the ability of the individual to build on stable internal benchmarks and factors in the processes of life activity, to maintain the constancy of activity and targets when the environment is regularly changing. Those. the potential of an individual is a whole complex of properties of the psyche, which gives an individual the ability to make decisions and regulate his behavior, but at the same time he starts from his personal criteria and ideas.
Various authors attribute independence and inner freedom, personal autonomy, meaningfulness of life, sustainability in living conditions, readiness for internal transformations, ability to accept new information, sustained readiness for actions, temporary personality perspective.
Personal growth is characterized, above all, by the victory over individual weaknesses, phobias, fears, over everything that stands in the way of the ideal “me”. Such growth does not have to be positive for others.
Personal growth in psychology is self-development, which is characterized by awareness, the striving of an individual to become better than he is now, to be smarter, more meaningful, more promising. The main component of a successful personality is its growth. The process of personal growth is the daily work of the subject on himself. Today there are many theories that relate to personal growth.
The theory of behaviorism is that man initially has no potential different from others. All people are born with the same potential. And personal growth depends only on the circumstances and conditions that surround the individual.
The existential approach is that the growth of the personality occurs in the process of self-knowledge, the search for harmony and, as a result, a new perception of the surrounding reality.
The most common theory of personal growth is "inevitably positive", which is that each individual is filled with a huge amount of potential. Such a potential and rushes out, but is able to find a way out only if there are appropriate conditions, circumstances that are not necessarily positive. That is why this theory is called positive: whatever happens in life, good or bad, personal growth will take place under any conditions.
Personal growth is badly needed by a person, because without him the individual will degrade. He is a modern model of the well-known truth: only the strongest survive. A person who does not strive for growth does not live, but exists.
The growth of an individual’s personality depends mainly on his efforts, but efforts alone are not enough. Full growth is possible only with the friendly participation of others, which are significant to him. Personal potential is inextricably linked with the "I" ideal, which is formed in the processes of joint interaction with people. It is necessary to differentiate personal growth from the harmonious development of the individual, which includes acquired knowledge and skills, the assimilation of value orientations, moral and ethical norms, the necessary rules of behavior.
During personal growth, transformations take place, both in the spiritual world of the subjects and in the processes of their relationship with the outside world. The essence of such transformations is that the individual is gradually freed from the distorting effects of various psychological defenses, is made able to have confidence in the perceived information, and does not filter it for the sake of protecting his ideal "I", becomes able to live in the present.
When passing through all the listed transformations, the individual becomes open to the perception of new information. At the same time, he begins to understand his feelings, emotions, experiences and himself as a whole much better, he is able to sensibly assess his individual capabilities, take responsibility for himself only for what really depends on him, plan his subsequent life as he wants. it is he, and not according to other people's ideas or imposed stereotypes. All this allows the individual to more fully perceive reality, as if living with “wide-open eyes.” Due to this, he begins to better understand others and accepts them as they are in reality, gets rid of contrived illusions and imposed prejudices.
The individual, striving for personal growth, strives not just for communication, but for joint interaction. In contacts with people, such an individual becomes more relaxed, direct and open, but at the same time, while remaining more realistic, capable of competently resolving various conflicts, is flexible.
Personal growth in psychology contributes to the development of a holistic personality, which does not have intractable disagreements between desires, aspirations and potential, between life requirements and morality, between planned actions and reality. In other words, this means that such an individual is not subject to experiencing crises. However, this does not mean that such crises are completely excluded. After all, the differences between the "I" ideal and "I am real" still remain.
Personal growth gives the subject a way to overcome such crises - the meaning of existence, a sense of spiritual meaningfulness of all his ideas, actions and feelings. When in a difficult or crisis situation, a person seeking personal growth does not ask himself the following questions: "Why does this happen to me?", "Why am I doing all this?", "Who is to blame for this," etc. . Such a person will ask: "What will I get as a result of overcoming a difficult situation," "What experience will I gain?" etc.
The personal growth of a person influences professional achievements and success in any areas of activity. For example, the perspective personal growth of a future teacher implies three possible directions: adaptation, self-development, and stagnation (degradation).
Adaptation helps to adapt to the requirements of education systems, to explore the main activities and role-playing positions. Self-development helps in continuous self-improvement, which ultimately leads to the full realization of the individual as a professional. In those cases when the teacher decided to stay in his professional and personal development and begins to live only through the use of familiar stereotypes and old baggage of knowledge, as well as skills, stagnation occurs. That is precisely why an indispensable condition for the successful professional activity of an individual who decided to devote himself to teaching children should be the personal growth of the future teacher and his self-improvement during the entire teaching time.
Personal growth and self-development
Personal growth is the constant desire for the sustainability of their own self-esteem. The individual, in any circumstances, who believes in himself and his strength, knows no barriers. During the life of the obstacles and obstacles occur on the path of each. Therefore, adequate self-esteem, which will help make the right decision, is so necessary. In other words, personal growth is the creation by itself of the newest strategies for decision-making and the realization of individual tasks. Therefore, it is precisely such growth that is able to create a foundation, a foundation that subsequently affects the correctness of the decisions made.
Self-development is an autonomous process that lives in everyone. In the course of its development, an individual receives growth only in the place to which his needs are directed. Therefore, every person in some areas of activity understands masterly, and some are completely beyond his control.
Often, the processes of self-development contribute to problems and unpleasant situations that subjects experience. Often such problems may remain unresolved. However, what a person passes through them can either make him stronger or break him. On the path of personal growth there are many obstacles and problems. In order for this growth to be all the same, one must learn not only to accept, to take, but also to lose, to give. In life, it cannot happen that all problems disappear, but a person can learn to change his attitude towards them, to accept them differently.
Personal growth and self-development is an accentuation of life meaning. Only in development it is possible to live. Thanks to the development of a person moves to a new round of the spiral, to a new level. Movement in the opposite direction leads to regression and degradation.
The process of self-development occurs constantly and throughout the life of the individual. As self-development progresses, a person undergoes transformations, he begins to think more broadly, to see the whole, and not just particular things, he begins to understand that this process is endless. The further to go into self-development, the more interesting it becomes to live.
There are seven tools that promote personal growth and self-development of the individual. The first such tool will be keeping an individual diary in paper form or in electronic form. The advantages of this method are the analysis and analysis of the past day, the assessment of events, actions and actions, incidents, their thoughts, future plans. Daily journaling helps to see negative and ineffective patterns of behavior and standard thinking, teaches clarity and clarity in expressing one's own thoughts, includes logic. With this method it is easy to follow all the transformations that occur with a self over a long time. Another advantage of keeping a diary is that when you reread it over time, you can re-evaluate your actions and events, highlight positive points and behavioral variations, recall mistakes made in order not to make them in the future.
The next tool is to create a kind of repository of your own ideas. This method plays an important role. This is due to the fact that the human brain, by virtue of its device, is capable of producing ideas at any hour of the day or night, in completely different environments. However, a person is not always able to remember all the ideas generated by the brain. For this, you need a repository of such ideas. As soon as a new idea appeared in my head, it should be immediately written down.
Another important tool is positive thinking. You need to learn to always think with a plus sign. To do this, figuratively speaking, "catch" all the repeated negative statements, thoughts and transform them into positive, kind, good, pleasant and useful.
You need to love yourself completely and completely with all the disadvantages and advantages. It often happens that, having created a model of an ideal “I,” an individual begins to actively strive for it, and with each failure or wrong act, from his point of view, he begins to scold himself, condemn his actions, i.e. underestimate self esteem. For self-development and growth, the individual needs to evaluate himself impartially, as if from the position of an objective observer. You should analyze your actions, while trying not to give emotional evaluation.
Another well-known tool in the path of successful self-knowledge and development is the "gum" technique. To perform such a technique, it is necessary to put a rubber band on the brush and, in each case of negative thinking, it should be pulled back and released. Due to a click and weak pain, a change in the behavior of thoughts will occur. Thus, a kind of reflex is produced.
The technique of communicating with your subconscious consists in asking yourself questions. It employs questions of this type: "What should I change in myself in order to achieve the desired goal?" After an individual has asked a question, he should be forgotten, i.e. stop focusing on it. After a couple of days, the answer to the question or solution that will be the most optimal in the current situation will appear in the mind.
You should learn to deal with your fears and not be afraid of change. After all, all the unknown is a peculiar development zone precisely because it gives an impetus to progress and growth.