The constructiveness of resolving conflicts between spouses is directly dependent, in the first turn, on whether understanding prevails between them, whether they are guided in their life together by behavior that is based on the ability to forgive and give in.
The main condition for the constructive completion of the controversial dialogue is under no circumstances to achieve victory over each other. After all, the victory is unlikely to be considered a personal achievement, if it is obtained through the defeat or resentment of a loved one. In any conflict, you must remember that the partner is worthy of respect.
How to avoid conflicts in the family between spouses? It should be understood that conflicts are an inseparable part of family life, as well as communication, life, leisure, etc. Therefore, conflict situations should not be avoided, but should be tried constructively. When quarrels arise, one should adhere to a constructive dialogue with the use of reasoned facts, without, however, applying categorical, claims, generalization and maximalism. It is not necessary to involve outsiders or family members in conflicts if they do not directly concern them. It should be understood that a favorable climate in the family depends only on the behavior, goals and desires of the spouses, and not on other individuals. Outsiders can become a catalyst or a detonator for a destructive conflict rather than an aid mechanism.
The resolution of conflicts in the family occurs in various ways, which lead to both the establishment of relationships and their destruction. One of the ways to resolve conflicts that leads to the breakup of a family is divorce. According to many psychologists, divorce is preceded by a process that involves three stages. The first stage is an emotional divorce, which manifests itself in cooling, indifference of partners to each other, loss of trust and loss of love. The next stage is a physical divorce, which leads to separation. The final stage is considered a legal divorce, which implies the legal registration of the termination of marriage.
Many couples are so tired of endless quarrels and conflicts that they see the only solution - divorce. For some, it really is a deliverance from unfriendliness, hostility, hostility, deception and other negative moments that darken life. However, it also has its negative consequences, which will be different for the society, the divorcing themselves and their children.
A woman is considered more vulnerable to divorce, since she is much more susceptible to neuropsychic disorders. For children, the negative consequences of a divorce will be much more significant in comparison with the consequences for adults. After all, the child thinks that he loses one of the parents or blames himself for divorce.
Ways to resolve family conflicts
A well-to-do family is distinguished from others by the presence of a sense of joy, happiness of today and tomorrow. In order to preserve such a feeling, partners should leave a bad mood, problems and troubles abroad of their home, and bring home only an atmosphere of elation, happiness, joy and optimism.
Overcoming conflicts in the family and their prevention lies in the mutual assistance of the spouses and the acceptance of another person as he is in reality. If one partner has a bad mood, then the second needs to help him get rid of a depressed mental state, try to cheer up and take his thoughts with something pleasant.
Overcoming conflicts in the family and preventing the occurrence of many mistakes depends on adherence to several basic principles of married life together. We must try to really look at the contradictions arising before marriage, and divergences of opinion that appear after its conclusion. Do not create an illusion to continue to not be disappointed, because the present will hardly meet the standards and criteria you have planned. Take the difficulties for the benefit, as their joint overcoming only unites people. Overcoming difficult life situations by both spouses together is a great opportunity to find out how much a partner is ready to live, guided by the principle of bilateral compromise.
Do not miss the opportunity to learn the psychology of the spouse. After all, in order to live together in love and harmony, it is necessary to understand each other, learn to adapt, and also try to please each other.
Цените мелочи. Ведь незначительные, но частые сюрпризы, знаки внимания не менее ценны и важны, чем дорогостоящие подарки, которые могут скрывать за собой равнодушие, холодность и неверность.
Научитесь прощать и забывать обиды, будьте терпимее друг к другу. After all, each individual is ashamed of some of his own mistakes and it is unpleasant for him to recall them. Why remember something that once broke your relationship and what should be forgotten as soon as possible if you decided to forgive a person.
Do not impose your own requirements, try by all means to protect the feeling of the dignity of a partner.
Appreciate a short separation. Periodically, partners annoy each other, because even the most delicious food will eventually become boring. Separation allows you to get bored and helps you understand how strong the love between spouses is.