Psychology and Psychiatry

Chat with girls

Chat with girls for guys, it sometimes acts as a real puzzle, if a man is not self-confident, has low self-esteem and a small vocabulary in his vocabulary. Girls love energetic, interesting interlocutors who know how to surprise with their charisma, and it is not at all necessary to be a handsome sportsman.

How to start communicating with a girl

Getting started with a girl should include ease and ease. If you are not sure about yourself, you are embarrassed, then to start a conversation, some object will fit that will distract the girl from your person and focus attention on him. This subject can be a book, phone, doggy on a leash, etc. If there are no subjects, then you can touch on eternal topics: music, literature, sports, work, study, philosophical questions. The main thing to remember is that the beginning of communication with a girl should not turn into an interrogation.

Topics to communicate with the girl, as well as frequently asked questions:

  • music (What music is like? What is not like? Why?)
  • Literature (What do you like to read? What don't you like to read? Which character do you like? Why?)
  • sport (Does sport interest? Who is it sick for?)
  • leisure (favorite places visited in the city?)
  • animals (pet attitude?)

The theme of work or study, as well as philosophical issues develop at the request of young ladies.

The experience of fellows with girls shows that the conversation should be lively and also easy going. To do this, we advise you first to tell something about yourself, about your interests, preferences, and then ask about the attitude to the same among the young ladies. If you plan to communicate with this girl in the future, then try to teach her something new that she still does not know, or go together to where you spend your leisure time. In general, show imagination, think up something you can interest a girl in, that she would be interested to learn, learn. You can ask how about reality, and about fantasies, thoughts, dreams. So you will cause interest in the girl, because not every day people are interested in her dreams. If at the time of the conversation there was a pause, an awkward silence, then switch attention to another topic.

How to continue communication with the girl? So, the beginning of communication with the girl took place and you made a good impression. Do not stop and try to continue the conversation. Translate the conversation into a pleasant, easy, and friendly. The problem for many guys is that they do not know how to communicate correctly with girls. Proper communication includes the ability to competently build sentences, to feel confident at the same time, to be positive with a moderate sense of humor. If a guy is unable to put two words together, then you should not expect to continue the relationship. Girls don't like boring, insecure guys with low vocabulary. This does not mean that before a girl you have to turn around like a clown, but you must be interested in continuing the relationship.

Problems with communicating with girls will not override the ability to dress and good external data. The ability to communicate is the main component in the relationship between a man and a woman. Proper communication with the girl includes knowledge of the psychology of communication with the female sex.

Psychology of communication with girls

All men know that there are certain rules of decency in communication that should not be violated, in order to always appear before women in the best light.

Proper communication with the girl includes the following:

- always be positive (if the girl is tired, then the negative from you will not please her, but the positive emotions that you will give her will carry you away, and will serve as a desire for further meetings);

- always remain a man (do not complain about life, friends, boss, always solve problems yourself and do not be afraid of responsibility);

- carry yourself proudly and do not run after a woman (women quickly lose interest from those men who run after them);

- always be confident (communicate simultaneously with several representatives of the fair sex - this will replenish your communication experience, and also give your girlfriend a sense of competition, she will turn on the mood for rivalry and she will want to get you; be self-confident and energetic - it makes a good impression on women);

- do not cease to amaze (give unusual gifts that the young lady did not possess or did not see, do not forget about ordinary flowers, which will raise your spirits mood);

- make compliments to your darling (always be attentive to the appearance, hairstyle; every girl will appreciate this, but the compliment should come from the heart);

- know how to always listen and hear (do not think about what to talk with a woman - she will tell everything, this is their favorite activity to talk about yourself, just listen, support the conversation with questions so that she can see the interest in your eyes);

- actively communicate, so that the joy on your face from communication is visible, meeting with you should be a holiday; Do not delay the date until the moment when both will be bored; the same applies to talking and walking;

- always be interesting, develop a diversified, read a lot, a broad outlook will introduce you to an erudite and interesting conversationalist;

- you have to set a clear goal for yourself: what you want: to build relationships, to be friends or just intimate; Remember that long communication will turn you into friends, which is harder to reverse then, so it may be better to immediately turn on romance and go towards your goal.

Communication of the guy with the girl begins after the guy evaluates her appearance. Any guy asks himself the question: is his girlfriend satisfied with the set of external characteristics? When a guy sees a young lady is not attractive, then passes by, and also abruptly looks away. If a young lady falls under the external attractiveness, then a tie is made and a ritual of communication arises. The guy catches the girl further conversation, flirts with her. A good sign will be if the girl responds with a smile. Pick an interesting topic for conversation, and if during a conversation you notice that there is no interest in a girl: she looks at the phone, on the sides, it means she is bored. If the conversation does not stick, then you are to blame. Try to talk about the girl, ask about her life, plans for the future. Never lie, do not exaggerate, especially if you think in the future to continue the relationship. Make the correct pause, using gestures. Answer your eyes with a nod of your head. Glance is an important element in communication.

So, the acquaintance took place, and you made the first date, which you are secretly afraid of. Being a mandatory start before further relations, it is important to make a good impression, and in order for the triumph to take place, take note of the following examples of communication with the girl on the first date:

- talk about yourself, because the girl doesn’t know anything about you, think about your achievements or what you do best in life, but so that it doesn’t look like you are bragging about it. In no case talk about troubles, as well as failures, you have to give the impression of a successful person going towards his goals;

- Talk about her girls like when they are interested in their lives; You can recall mutual friends, talk about travel, animals and plans;

- learn about each other in parallel, allowing each other to speak;

- talk about childhood and all that is connected with children's experiences - girls love such memories.

Phrases for communicating with a girl should be simple, easy to pronounce. Do not ask a lot of questions in a row. Do not discuss with the girl other women. Do not fuss, this you show that you are nervous, and ruin everything. Look into your eyes, listening when a girl speaks.

Chat with a girl on the Internet

Information technologies have made it possible for a person to easily get acquainted, communicate, translate virtual acquaintances into reality.

How to start communicating with a girl on the Internet? Nowadays, women are spoiled by the attention on the Internet: they send emoticons, banal phrases for dating, to pretty people, so you have to try to be captivated by your persona. Especially if you want to translate virtual communication into real. To start a conversation, it is important to find points of contact that unites you. Do not write template phrases: "Hello! What are you doing?" Try to be distinguished by originality, because the first impression is the brightest. It is important for yourself to understand what the purpose of dating. If you do not know what to write - study photos of the girl, statuses, which will tell a lot about the inner world and the interests of the young lady. Do not send free gifts, winks - such things annoy girls and women. Be confident, forget about your fear of not being accepted or misunderstood. If one girl did not answer, write to others, the main thing is to continue attempts to start communication. Be sure to answer.

So, you started a correspondence, but there is a desire to translate the acquaintance into real life. The main thing with this is not to delay, because According to statistics, if virtual communication has been delayed for up to two months, then it is unlikely to turn into real, and often the virtual representation does not coincide with the real one, which is very frustrating for both parties and the communication stops.

Good virtual communication does not mean that it can continue in ordinary life. The first real meeting with virtual sympathy is a crucial moment that needs preparation. However, even setting up a date, you need to remember that in real life, it is much more difficult to like, so you have to follow certain rules.

The main impression about a person is made fairly quickly, within 20 minutes of a conversation, and the continuation of your relationship depends on it. Therefore, try to sincerely express your emotions, look in the eyes of your interlocutor, and behave confidently. A topic for conversation can be thought out in advance, for example, what you have learned from virtual communication can be further developed in a conversation. The main thing to be relaxed, fun, sad themes do not touch. The themes of past love, illness, failure, problems at work, it is recommended not to touch. Call her more often by name - this will help establish a subconscious connection between you. Do not neglect this.

Be confident and honest on the first date - this will guarantee success and will have multiple follow-up. Remember that every man is worthy of those women he wants, the main thing is to know how to do it right! Let these words give confidence in achieving your goal. All these tips need to be taken with regard to your own style of communication and take what is right for you.