The need to communicate with people is especially evident in old age, when children and grandchildren have left their native penats, their favorite work is left behind, and there is only viewing of soap operas in the intervals between relatives' visits.
Aging generates a worsening of the general state of health in elderly individuals, as a result of which their self-esteem may decrease and their own sense of low value and self-dissatisfaction increase. An elderly individual is experiencing an "identity crisis". It is characterized by a feeling of lagging behind life, a decline in the ability to enjoy life fully. As a result, a desire for retreat, pessimism and hypochondria may appear. In such cases, it will be indispensable to communicate with a good person, and a better soulmate.
Among older persons, one of the reasons for the distortion of communicative interaction is the difficulty in perceiving and comprehending the data obtained, their heightened susceptibility to the behavior of the communication partner in relation to them, reduced hearing. These features, and the problems arising from them in dealing with older people, must be taken into account.
To avoid misunderstanding in dealing with older people, it is recommended to take care to be heard and understood correctly.
Communication with older people should exclude the imposition of their own views and advice to the elderly, which only cause a negative attitude on their part. They will perceive this as an encroachment on their own freedom, personal space and independence. In general, any imposition of one's own position will only lead to sharp resistance from the interlocutor, as a result of which the effectiveness of communicative interaction will suffer.
To avoid conflict situations with interpersonal communication with older people, you should follow the following rules of behavior: do not use conflict agents and do not respond to conflict factors. Conflict - these are words, phrases, position or actions, a manifestation of superiority, provoking the occurrence of a negative or conflict situation. These include orders, unconstructive criticism, ridicule, mockery, sarcastic remarks, categorical sentences, etc.
Fear of communication with people
Every individual has the need to communicate with people almost from the first days of life. However, some individuals, due to incorrect family education, permanent restrictions, hypertrophied dependence, various life situations, high or, conversely, low self-esteem, have a fear of communicating with people. For some, such fear manifests itself only when interacting with strangers, for others - with everyone without exception.
The fear of communication with people is considered the most frequently encountered type of fear, which interferes with a full life and self-realization. This kind of fear is present in many people. Often it is caused by the need to interfere with the conversation in the personal space of the interlocutor. Так как каждый человек имеет собственную дистанцию для коммуникативного взаимодействия, то когда другой человек вторгается в его личное пространство, у партнера возникает невидимый барьер, препятствующий зарождению общения.
Страх перед коммуникативным взаимодействием ведет к замкнутости, которая усугубляет нелюдимость, необщительность и отчужденность индивида. Вследствие чего у человека меняется отношение к окружающему социуму. He begins to believe that they do not understand him, they do not appreciate him enough and pay attention.
There are several techniques that help fight the fear of communication with people. The first thing to do to win over the fear of communicating with people is to understand the cause of the emergence of fear. For the effectiveness of communicative interaction and increasing confidence, you should try to expand your own horizons, learn how to set priorities.
Improving self-esteem helps overcome the fear of communicating with people. Therefore, you need to remember and write down all your victories, achievements, results, gradually adding new ones, re-reading them daily.