Middle age crisis - This is an emotional long-term condition that occurs in middle age and is marked by depressive manifestations due to the overestimation of life experience. The crisis affects the age from 35 to 55 years and includes regrets about irretrievably missed opportunities, dreams, as well as experiences associated with the onset of their own old age.
Middle age crisis
External manifestations of midlife crisis are different and are marked by the following symptoms and signs:
- the refusal of the individual to achieve in life, despite the positive opinion of others about the achievements of the person;
- emptiness, zagnannost and self-pity;
- a sense of the injustice of life, the trap of marriage or career;
- depression and loss of interest in previously many significant aspects of life;
- change of a circle of significant people and values;
- change in values;
- a sense of meaninglessness of life.
All these signs are able to knock even a successful person out of their emotional balance, breaking a strong family, career and habitual way of life.
Causes of midlife crisis
The American psychologist K.Pack highlighted the main problems affecting the development of a midlife crisis:
- the need to reorient the life forces from physical to mental activity. This is associated with significant changes in the physiological characteristics of the organism;
- the importance of recognizing social priorities over intimate. This is due to biological changes in men;
- the need for the formation of emotional flexibility in connection with emotional impoverishment, which is caused by the loss of friends, relatives, the destruction of the usual way of life;
- the need for the development of mental flexibility, overcoming mental straightness;
- differentiation of social interests that are concentrated around work and family. Problems in these areas often lead people to the brink of disaster;
- the need to redirect their attention from personal growing ailments to other social landmarks;
- Concentration on the problem of the inevitability of death and the approaching old age.
The combination of these problems leads to the development of the crisis. The most pronounced problem of middle age reveals itself in the context of interpersonal relations: friends and family.
Middle-aged people play a connecting role between the older generation of parents and the younger generation of children. On their shoulders they carry the burden of social duties. This responsibility brings with it also social conflicts. People regret that they have not achieved certain goals, but some things have not been completed and much of what was planned remained in their dreams. However, middle-aged people understand that they have to live with problems and everyday worries, they cannot, like their parents live in the past or how their children live in dreams. They are assigned the role of family custodians: to keep history, to celebrate achievements and holidays, to keep traditions, to keep in touch with absent family members.
The first prerequisites for a middle age crisis are the maturing of children and their departure into a separate independent life. Psychologists are unanimous that leaving children from the family nest is a serious stressful situation. Although on the one hand, there is also a positive moment - the appearance of free time that can be spent on yourself. However, the problem lies in the fact that by this time there are no significant interests of the parents, and the development of new ones leads to psychological problems, which middle-aged people are wary of in advance.
The second premise of the crisis is associated with relationships with aging parents. Often, by this time they are experiencing psychological deep transformations and the situation is significantly exacerbated if the parents are intellectually degraded and too weak. Very often, the time and attention freed from children is transferred to the parents, aggravating in some cases dissatisfaction with how unsuccessfully life has developed by the middle of the life’s path. The problems of the crisis are also aggravated by the fact that former friendships are losing their urgency.